there's a difference between telling someone they're an awful person for no reason and flippantly insulting them for just being around, and explaining why their behaviour is problematic and how it negatively affects people around them (and ultimately them as well). i guess that probably sounds silly in some way but what i'm trying to highlight is that you can tell someone that they aren't bein cool without bein uncool u c?
there is absolutely no situation where being an unpleasant person is OK as far as i'm concerned, it's entirely unproductive in every regard. i can't really think of any situation where being a jerkhole is a legitimate option to achieve a desirable result unless the "desirable result" is an unfortunate one. and obv that goes in every direction, whether or not the person on the potential receiving end "deserves it"
at least that's how i feel about it?? maybe that's an unpopular outlook, but i think it's a helpful one and it's done me well so far
