@Op
Can we stop complaining about all the probelms with the community and ask ourselves why we stay in the first place? Can we just take a moment to look at the things that draw us into this community?
Just ask yourself why you stay. It almost makes no sense to want to stay a part of a community as hostile as ours. We don't accept outsiders very well, theres a lot of hormonal preteens who like to try and damage the community/game, instead of warning others about annoying behavior we usually jumo at them right from the start, etc etc. This is the type of community that seems would have negative growth, but I think our hostility is what makes us stronger. Those of us who are able to withstand the hostility are matured by it and usually taught social skills. The Forums help thicken your skin. They help teach how to deal with people becasue everything we say and do isnt checked by a moderator to insure it doesn't offend anyone. Its like having an argument without anyone there to protect others feelings. Its ture freedom. I believe that it is this freedom that allows us to make such strong friendships and forge such a powerful connection with the community, as hostile as it is.
TL;DR : It isnt as bad as you make it out to be.