Yeah, I agree, it depends entirely on the role play, rules, and players.
1). Example: Arekans Zombie Roleplay: good admins, enforced rules, bans for noobs, and great builds
2). Example of a BAD roleplay: (not naming anyone) family rp: host always afk, noobs with trash builds, spam spam SPAM!, random minigames
(not saying that family rps are bad, Im just saying that most of the ones that I've been to are like Example 2)