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Off Topic / Re: Spanking is child abuse
« on: July 17, 2012, 10:48:58 PM »
Quoting this from a book I've been reading lately.
To sum it up, spanking is not "abuse" or "mean". I can't stress it enough that it's an effective discipline tool that has been used for thousands of years. Granted, some parents actually ARE abusive and do not administer spankings in an appropriate way or safe way (it should never actually injure the child).
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It is unbelievable to me that some parents still think "time-outs" are effective. This parenting "strategy" became the sensible, mature parent's answer to spanking, which we've been told is mean, cruel, and counterproductive. So if little Lance is pulling the family dog's ear, Mommy sends him to the stairs to sit for a few minutes. Oh great, the dog has already suffered, so the carpeting on the stairs should as well? Why do we think children who poke the pet or push their siblings are going to be any nicer to their time-out spot in the house? I have seen banisters scratched, rug fibers pulled, and walls written on during time-outs. My mother never sent me to the "corner" when I misbehaved. She was smart enough to know I would probably cause more mayhem there than I did at the table.
If we are brutally honest with one another, we'll admit that time-outs are more for the beleaguered parent who needs a time-out from the stress of it all. If Joey goes to his time-out, Mommy can finish her phone call or vegetable chopping for that night's dinner. The "time-outers" are usually the same ones who grimace at the mere mention of spanking. For certain liberal elites, there is one continuum from swatting children on the fanny to water-boarding innocent locals. One of the best and most involved fathers I know says it best, if you spank once, you may never have to do it again. The parents who should be reported to Child Protective Services aren't the occasional bottom whackers, but the ones who indulge their kids with the latest behavioral adjustment fad.
To sum it up, spanking is not "abuse" or "mean". I can't stress it enough that it's an effective discipline tool that has been used for thousands of years. Granted, some parents actually ARE abusive and do not administer spankings in an appropriate way or safe way (it should never actually injure the child).
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Spanking refers to the act of striking the buttocks of another person to cause temporary pain without producing physical injury.
