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Off Topic / Re: [Blogland] Relationship status: Oh no [And now we have trouble]
« on: October 05, 2016, 12:42:57 AM »
Well this whole thing has taken a turn in the past couple of hours and it's not in my favor.
The boyfriend is pissed
Yeah that's right. He knows now, or is at least extremely suspicious to the point that he's telling her that she can't "hang out" with me anymore.
I was on break at walgreens earlier tonight (only 4 hours ago at this point), went to Hardee's as per usual, got a drink, kicked a chair backwards and sat in it, and pulled out my phone. Suddenly, the shift leader (one of the nosy coworkers who always wants the scoop on our relationship) shows up at my table making a bunch of small talk. I mean we're pretty much friends and all, but it struck me as odd that she would be making conversation out in the dining area during work.
Suddenly, from behind her, the girl who is the subject of this whole topic comes up dressed in normal clothes with tears in her eyes. I ask her what's wrong and she tells me that her boyfriend is being controlling with her all day and saying that he's getting so sick of hearing about me that he says she can't hang out with me anymore. I give my input and give her a hug, and the shift leader, in an attempt to brighten the mood, says, "You should go punch him in the face."
I laugh and I'm like "sure I'll go do it where is he??" as I go along with it. She casually says, "Oh he's right outside that window over there." I instantly let go of her as I go into a subtle internal panic mode. Sure enough, he comes inside and roams around the restaurant like a suspicious police man, strolling around looking in our direction. He stops right next to our table and everything just falls silent. My friend gets up in a huff and stomps away. The shift leader gets up to follow her. I stay glued to my chair as he continues to stand there staring at me not 4 feet away. I say nothing, make no eye contact, and fidget with my phone pretending to be into Facebook. 45 seconds seemed like months and he finally turned and walked away, saying nothing the whole time.
The shift leader and my friend return about a minute later and tell me that he left the building and walked next door to KFC. From that point I could talk more freely and work on calming her down. Once she was happy again, I told her I had to leave and I walked outside to go to my car. I combed the entire parking lot with my eyes looking for him as I walked to my car, got in, and drove back to Walgreens.
And you might think this story is over, but it's not
Because not 1 hour later, when I'm putting soup cans away, I look up and see my friend walk in the front doors. Her boyfriend is in tow. I'm just like, "god no", wave at them, and continue with my work trying to spend as little time around them as possible. My homie working the register (who is in the loop on all of this) sets to work distracting her boyfriend talking about shoes and being an idiot since he's pretty good at that. Her goals are set on me though, and she openly flirts with me right in his line of sight. This goes on for about a half hour as I try to be myself to her, avoid being in any close proximity and avoid all eye contact with her boyfriend, and interact with my homie to look casual while working.
They buy a few stuff so I hurry to the front and let them use my employee discount. Then she continues being obnoxiously flirty, latches onto me for a hug, whispers in my ear, "I'm sorry. I hope you're not mad at me." and then goes back towards him. I'm just all lax like, "hahaha nooooo" and then they all leave. I just about went into a panic attack at that point.
Stuff has gotta change and it has to change now
Obviously this cannot go on. Not only is it not right, but it's stressing out literally every party involved here. She's hurting herself dragging out the breakup (which she's not handling correctly at all), she's hurting me by confusing me and stressing me out over what's going on, and she's hurting him by leaving him confused and not telling him what's going on. She needs to either stay with him or cut the ties instead of hovering in between any longer. That's her decision.
The boyfriend is pissed
Yeah that's right. He knows now, or is at least extremely suspicious to the point that he's telling her that she can't "hang out" with me anymore.
I was on break at walgreens earlier tonight (only 4 hours ago at this point), went to Hardee's as per usual, got a drink, kicked a chair backwards and sat in it, and pulled out my phone. Suddenly, the shift leader (one of the nosy coworkers who always wants the scoop on our relationship) shows up at my table making a bunch of small talk. I mean we're pretty much friends and all, but it struck me as odd that she would be making conversation out in the dining area during work.
Suddenly, from behind her, the girl who is the subject of this whole topic comes up dressed in normal clothes with tears in her eyes. I ask her what's wrong and she tells me that her boyfriend is being controlling with her all day and saying that he's getting so sick of hearing about me that he says she can't hang out with me anymore. I give my input and give her a hug, and the shift leader, in an attempt to brighten the mood, says, "You should go punch him in the face."
I laugh and I'm like "sure I'll go do it where is he??" as I go along with it. She casually says, "Oh he's right outside that window over there." I instantly let go of her as I go into a subtle internal panic mode. Sure enough, he comes inside and roams around the restaurant like a suspicious police man, strolling around looking in our direction. He stops right next to our table and everything just falls silent. My friend gets up in a huff and stomps away. The shift leader gets up to follow her. I stay glued to my chair as he continues to stand there staring at me not 4 feet away. I say nothing, make no eye contact, and fidget with my phone pretending to be into Facebook. 45 seconds seemed like months and he finally turned and walked away, saying nothing the whole time.
The shift leader and my friend return about a minute later and tell me that he left the building and walked next door to KFC. From that point I could talk more freely and work on calming her down. Once she was happy again, I told her I had to leave and I walked outside to go to my car. I combed the entire parking lot with my eyes looking for him as I walked to my car, got in, and drove back to Walgreens.
And you might think this story is over, but it's not
Because not 1 hour later, when I'm putting soup cans away, I look up and see my friend walk in the front doors. Her boyfriend is in tow. I'm just like, "god no", wave at them, and continue with my work trying to spend as little time around them as possible. My homie working the register (who is in the loop on all of this) sets to work distracting her boyfriend talking about shoes and being an idiot since he's pretty good at that. Her goals are set on me though, and she openly flirts with me right in his line of sight. This goes on for about a half hour as I try to be myself to her, avoid being in any close proximity and avoid all eye contact with her boyfriend, and interact with my homie to look casual while working.
They buy a few stuff so I hurry to the front and let them use my employee discount. Then she continues being obnoxiously flirty, latches onto me for a hug, whispers in my ear, "I'm sorry. I hope you're not mad at me." and then goes back towards him. I'm just all lax like, "hahaha nooooo" and then they all leave. I just about went into a panic attack at that point.
Stuff has gotta change and it has to change now
Obviously this cannot go on. Not only is it not right, but it's stressing out literally every party involved here. She's hurting herself dragging out the breakup (which she's not handling correctly at all), she's hurting me by confusing me and stressing me out over what's going on, and she's hurting him by leaving him confused and not telling him what's going on. She needs to either stay with him or cut the ties instead of hovering in between any longer. That's her decision.