Thanks builda :) but before I do that I want to make sure I can't fix it some other way. I am very tight about security and that has some security risks. I heard after v14 we didn't need to port forward, and my router is very powerful, it should be able to handle hosting a dedicated server without port forwarding.
You know, using UPnP (in this case) is port forwarding too, it just does it automatically for you.