My mother is acting strange lately? (WORD HEAVY)

[Torin0101]

I am currently typing this on my phone, so please excuse any grammatical errors that. I have overlooked, And I realize it's a rather serious subject, but I'd rather use this than Yahoo! Answers just for the sake of my friends or family members seeing.

Ok so recently, My mother has been acting strange.
(This is a brief history lesson I mind you)
I've lived with my mother for my entire life, ever moved once. My father left for war when I was an infant and later on (He is currently in Afghanistan, and returning later in may) And hasn't been a very good parent. He beat my mother when he was drunk plenty of times when i was in the 1st-3rd grade, Then my brother started doing meth and did the same from 3-4th grade. Granted I love both of them still but anyway
My mother is in her mid 50s, And I'm well aware that she's going through meta pause, Blah blah blah. She's been acting really strange lately, Past couple of months she's been talking in her sleep, but like; she's awake? Sometimes I'll say something to her in the mornings or when I'm going to bed, I'll usually say something walking next to her room like "Goodnight, Love you" or something in that manner, even though she can't hear me. She's starting to respond now, but with something completely off topic like "Did you download it yet?" Like she's still in her 'Dream World'.
Also she's been a complete starfish to me too all of the sudden, on tuesday and tonight, She's just been really rude and abrasive to me, for no apparent reason. For example  i was about to take a shower tonight when my dad called me, we had a normal conversation then I hung up. I got out and talked to my mom a little and she was disgusted with me for some reason. I was asking her why and she just said things like "Oh just stop" and "You know why". I kept telling her that I did nothing wrong from my point of view. I know
Afterwards she started calling me a piece of stuff and telling me to go to my room. I she told me that "She's fed up with me playing games" sort of like a spouse would to her husband, that manner. And it got to me just being really frustrated, so I went to my room, and I started to type this.

I know it sounds like I'm leaving out details, and I am. I've been typing this for about 45 minutes because my phone keeps loving up, and I'd rather not lag it on further. If you want some information on certain spot, just ask or PM me.
Please note that, I'm not trying to tell the forums my sob story or anything like that, I'm just seriously worried about our relationship, It probably has to do with me but some things just seem strange.
It's not like she's a jerk to me all the time, She's been a generally caring mother to me.

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[Dallas Dick Kicker]

maybe she's got a case of satan

[Torin0101]

maybe she's got a case of satan

10/10
She's actually pretty religious (to the uncomfortable annoying christian point"
But she never raves and goes on about it either.

[Dallas Dick Kicker]

10/10
She's actually pretty religious (to the uncomfortable annoying christian point"
But she never raves and goes on about it either.

maybe somebody is telling her that god is a fraud

[naturemon]

Just saying, she could be on drugs. My parents were on drugs often, they didn't act high, but their outlook towards a lot of things would be different when they were high.

A great example would be that my dad would be extremely strict and angry (just who he was, he was still extremely caring though) and while high he'd be the nicest guy in the world. It took quite some time to realize what was happening.

[Torin0101]

Just saying, she could be on drugs. My parents were on drugs often, they didn't act high, but their outlook towards a lot of things would be different when they were high.

A great example would be that my dad would be extremely strict and angry (just who he was, he was still extremely caring though) and while high he'd be the nicest guy in the world. It took quite some time to realize what was happening.

possible, but I don't think thats it. I'm usually home 90% of the time she's home, and she usually works her ass off 5 days a week.
Part of it could be depression, but this is so recent i don't think thats it.
EDIT: Actually, she does drink quite a lot, to the point of where it worries me.
But it's just stuff like 'Bud Light' so it's not stuff like heavy liquor.
Also she's a nurse and I'm sure she values her job a lot. I remember her kicking out my brother's friend when she caught him smoking in her bathroom.
I don't think it's drugs. She's really smart most of the time and. I don't think she'd do that.

[Torin0101]

I'm going to bed, I'll update on this and reply to anything in the morning if anyone says something.
Goodnight.

[Writer The Wolf]

Man, hope it's not a brain tumor or something. That would suck.

It could just be stress of some kind though. (Work, or your dad coming back maybe?)
Maybe she's developing some stress related mental illness. Could even be schizophrenia, sounds kind of similar.

I don't know though, I'm not a psychologist.
Maybe you should try and get her some help? Don't ask me how though, because I have no clue.

[Torin0101]

Man, hope it's not a brain tumor or something. That would suck.

It could just be stress of some kind though. (Work, or your dad coming back maybe?)
Maybe she's developing some stress related mental illness. Could even be schizophrenia, sounds kind of similar.

I don't know though, I'm not a psychologist.
Maybe you should try and get her some help? Don't ask me how though, because I have no clue.

Right, that's possible too with the work stress. I completely forgot to say that they're divorced though.
She was worried about him though.

[sir dooble]

I would suggest that you find a calm moment, when she seems happy and just nicely talk to her about it.

I'm sure she doesn't want you to be concerned and worrying, and while she might sometimes say rude things to you she might also really regret it.

You say that your mother is in her 50s and entering Menopause.
That's a really tough time for ladies. It's very much like a second puberty and there's a lot of hormone changes. It's not entirely uncommon for women to suffer depression or even enter a mid-life crCIA during this.
When you talk to your Mum try not to specifically mention this though, as it's a rather personal and embarassing thing. If she wants to let you know then let her. Just try to be understanding. It's very weird for people to go through menopause, since their bodies stop working in the way they've been used to for so long. For most women they've gotten used to their bodies over the last 40 years, and then it starts to change. It can be stressing.


For the most part just keep calm and be nice to your mother. Let her know if she upsets or scares you, and listen to what she says. She might not have any major issues with your behaviour, but it might be minor things that can make all the difference.