Author Topic: Are my expected standards too high?  (Read 1286 times)

Your grades look fine, but you should raise your ACT/SAT scores. If you're getting straight As (which it looks like you are), you can be scoring within the 99th percentile. However, a 27 on the ACT is only the 87th percentile.

What I'd do first is try to decide which test you'll score higher on. Buy the 'SAT blue book' or check it out from your library, and then do one or two of the practice tests. If you do better on the SAT than you did on the ACT, then focus your efforts on increasing your SAT score. If it's lower, then the ACT is your choice.

Parents expect too much out of wanting their kids to either live up to their level, or exceed where they couldn't.

Do your best to not take it personally.

In this case, they always say they want me to exceed them. They started out badly. They married at 19 and 20 years old, I was born 13 months later, neither had college educations, and my dad kept getting laid off. As for me, I've had my major decided since I was about six years old and have the high expectations and study habits of a homeschooler (full time from '04 to '13), so I'm already in a better academic position than they were at my age.

Your grades look fine, but you should raise your ACT/SAT scores. If you're getting straight As (which it looks like you are), you can be scoring within the 99th percentile. However, a 27 on the ACT is only the 87th percentile.

What I'd do first is try to decide which test you'll score higher on. Buy the 'SAT blue book' or check it out from your library, and then do one or two of the practice tests. If you do better on the SAT than you did on the ACT, then focus your efforts on increasing your SAT score. If it's lower, then the ACT is your choice.

By all means, I should have and probably can do better on the ACT. My mom is saying I can take it again but only if I pay for it, but I don't know if I should take it again or call it good and apply at SLU. 27 is good for enrollment and the program I want to go into has no competition (for the past five years, they didn't fill an average of 11 spaces out of 35 or so, with 2014-15 having 18 empty.

I'm also not taking the SAT as it would have no use to me with what I'm doing.

They only want the best for you, which is fair enough.
And you seem pretty dedicated to your studies, and you seem to be doing pretty well at them.
Don't panic too much about pleasing your parents now, just focus on doing the best you know you can do.

The more you worry about whether you're living up to your parents expectations, the more stressed you're going to be.
And that won't help you when it comes to exams and tests.


Just put up with your parents nagging, and carry on as you are.
I'm sure they'll be proud no matter what happens anyway.

High School, SAT and ACT grades mean almost nothing once you get to college. I had high 70s and low 80s all throughout high school and didn't even take the ACT and now I'm 3 semesters away from a Hydrology/Environmental Engineering degree. Just work hard once you get out of high school and it will all be worth it four years from now.

High School, SAT and ACT grades mean almost nothing once you get to college. I had high 70s and low 80s all throughout high school and didn't even take the ACT and now I'm 3 semesters away from a Hydrology/Environmental Engineering degree. Just work hard once you get out of high school and it will all be worth it four years from now.
But they do help when trying to get into a better college.

But they do help when trying to get into a better college.
define better college

By all means, I should have and probably can do better on the ACT. My mom is saying I can take it again but only if I pay for it, but I don't know if I should take it again or call it good and apply at SLU.
Since you've taken the ACT twice already, chances are that you won't get a higher score--or if you do, not by much.  At least some schools superscore if you take multiple ACTs (i.e. take the highest score in each section from all of the tests).

If you feel like trying again and devoting yourself to studying for it, by all means do so.  But again: chances are you wouldn't improve by much.

My mom is the same exact way. A B is literally "nothing" and A's are what I need permanently.

My mom is the same exact way. A B is literally "nothing" and A's are what I need permanently.

In my case, B is for Bad.

I have a somewhat similar thing with my mom, in that she thinks me working past dinner on school (homeschooled) is perfectly fine (I'd agree), but that I have it rather easy since she thinks most kids my age would have many hours of homework when they get back from school.

 Is it true that homework takes you guys that long?
I was told the same thing but I do far more work with my homeschool subjects than with my public school stuff