Should money you have earned be shared with a spouse?

[Jubel]

Some people believe that when you get married or settle down, that big pocket of change both of you make can be mixed into a jar and shared.

Some people like me, believe that the money I make is mine, and will only "share" it based on decisions that benefit the both of us. Such as mortgages and the like. Otherwise, my money stays in my bank account, and can only be accessed by me.

What do you think forum?

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[hodot]

I think there shouldn't be a rule for it and they should let the couple decide

[Brickman]

i'm not sure. I guess as long as they're both earning money and neither of them are being irresponsible with it, a mutual cash pool could probably work.

[XR-7]

Depends. I do think that the working spouse (if only one is working) should always support the other (including financially, which is the way it has always has been in my family, with dad working and mom taking care of the family all day), but it doesn't seem unreasonable to me if both partners are working they they each keep the majority of their own earnings and just share the bills.

I think there shouldn't be a rule for it and they should let the couple decide

^ this is good

[Ben Grapevine]

Don't get married if you don't want to share stuff.

[TrainandSpacelover]

as long as they both spend the money responsibly, it is fine to share the income. otherwise stay-at-home moms and other people of that sort wouldn't have any money to use

but also this

but it doesn't seem unreasonable to me if both partners are working they they each keep the majority of their own earnings and just share the bills.

[Jubel]

Don't get married if you don't want to share stuff.

you dont need to get married to share stds

[joe411]

you dont need to get married to share stds

sharing is caring

[sir dooble]

My parents have a shared bank account.
And my mum also has her own bank account.
But my mum doesn't earn as much as my dad anyway, and she's been a housewife for about 4-5 years, and she started at work again a year ago.

The money in my mums account is still used by both of them when it's needed.
It's mostly just their savings account, while their shared account has most of their money in it, and it's where bills are paid from, as well as where the money for food and other necessities and luxuries comes from.
Shared accounts are fine, if you're in a trusting relationship.
I don't see any chance of my parents ever splitting up (they're still truly in love after 18 years, and neither has a personality that would lead them to cheat, or betray or exploit the other).
Them having a joint bank account just makes things easier.

[carolcat]

shared accounts are good imo because they show trust. i just don't agree w/ how a lot of people at my church see shared accounts, which is "all of the money earned by the woman must go to the man because this shows a BIBLICAL SUBMISSION to him"

[Otis Da HousKat]

My brother's Bro girlfriend™ was jobless for about a year and a half and loved to constantly drain his account by eating out 5 nights a week and buying stupid stuff for the dog. It put them in more than one financial tight spot in which I had to lend them money (I've always been paid back or I wouldn't). Come a few months ago my brother was out of work temporarily and she had just started a new call center job after months of pleading for her to get a job to help pull her weight (for which there is enough for three adults). She then proceeded to nitpick every little expense my brother made with her money and scolded him for buying frivolous items such as groceries and gasoline without her permission. She also has this attitude that now that she has a job she doesn't have to help do chores around the house, letting dishes pile up in the sink or trash literally overflow out of the can if I'm not around to change it for a couple days. We all have jobs and other responsibilities too, if you see the trash can needs changing just loving do it holy crap.

This is just one example of her rampant hypocrisy, and along with her lack of empathy, really underlines her personality. I could write posts and posts on all the asinine things she does with her life.

BIBLICAL SUBMISSION

hot.


I enjoy that my girlfriend has no problem with sharing the burden of expenses that we incur. We don't live together so it's mostly entertainment and dining costs but it's nice not even having to ask to split a bill and the like.

[Georges]

For the most part, yes, but there are definitely situations where that would not make much sense.

[Daswiruch]

I think there shouldn't be a rule for it and they should let the couple decide

[Nonnel]

Marriage shouldn't be a government thing

[Swat 3]

Marriage shouldn't be a government thing

That's the whole point of marriage these days for most people.

There should be this easy system:
His money
Her money
Their money

That is what I am going to do, if and when I get married [:(].

At the end of the month, we all pool together our salaries and decide on a certain percentage in order to pay off the bills/special occassions such as family vacations and Christmas.

And then the rest goes to him or her to be used to spend on stuff, so the other spouse doesn't get pissed you used your money to buy a $1000 dollar PC.

This makes divorce, if it does happen, much MUCH more easier.
But this is all lawless boundaries that I think the spouses should agree on, and if possible, sign on.