things have been going bad recently -- console me (mother is depressed)

[The Murderous Cop]

...hey guys.

things have just been going real loving stuff real quick for my mother -- which affects me as well.

recently she's been seeming down -- i figured it was nothing for a while, until she started leaving a lot more recently than usual, to see her friends. that's when i started getting worried.

whenever she left, i always said:
"are you ok? you seem down."
"is there something wrong?"

but she just said "yeah, i'm fine. don't worry."

it's really clear to see she's doing this just to comfort me and make me think that things were fine, and that nothing was going wrong.

today made me realize that there is something wrong and she's been hiding this from me.

i checked my facebook today and saw these two posts:


my life is a lot more stressful since i've seen this since i don't want anything to happen to her.

i'm not sure what to do. she's not home and i don't know where she is.

if things go even worse: i'll move in with my actual mother (aka actually birthed me) in virginia beach since she has a much more positive atmosphere, is married to a nice and funny guy, works in IT, which is great since that's the job i want, and overall has a nice life.

tl;dr mother is very depressed as of recently and as such is making me stressed and worried.

please help me i'm very scared and nervous.

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[kahnuu]

confront her on the posts and let her talk to you

if things so south call in other family members to help or something

sorry i don't have much experience with this good luck op, bless ya papa

[Lyoko1337]

Does she take any medication? If she does, has she stopped taking it?

[The Murderous Cop]

Does she take any medication? If she does, has she stopped taking it?

she's trans, so mainly stuff for hormones.
and no, she hasn't.

[Moppy]

she's trans, so mainly stuff for hormones.
and no, she hasn't.

I hear hormone meds can mess with your emotions. I'm not a doctor, but that's what I've heard.

[Cacti]

the whole family is dying, the whole family is crying

[TheABELBOTO]

If I were you OP, I'd just move in with your surrogate mom

[hodot]

mine's depressed too, i feel. tried to kill herself a few months ago, she's aight now though. that won't happen with your mom though.

[Dinovincent]

I dunno, moving in with your actual mother might be a good idea, but only if/when your, um, current mother(?, i dunno how to put it) right now starts to feel or get better. It would probably make her feel worse if you left right now, but I don't know that for sure.

[TheABELBOTO]

I dunno, moving in with your actual mother might be a good idea, but only if/when your, um, current mother(?, i dunno how to put it) right now starts to feel or get better. It would probably make her feel worse if you left right now, but I don't know that for sure.

Yeah, just leaving without giving a good reason will just make her feel like she drove OP away.

Telling her that it's best for you to give her room, and tell her it's because you love her and want her to get better OP, but don't make it sound like you're a liability.