hey forums, need some help.

[Ceist]

i've never done this blogland stuff before until now. weird.

anyways, i met this girl on a trip i went on recently, she's great and we've just started dating. the only problem is that i'm 18 and she's 15 going on 16 in june. i'm concerned about this age gap, and while if we were a bit older, say i was 23 and she was 20, it wouldn't be a problem really. But we're in highschool and i'm graduating this year, and she's only a sophomore.

i just need some advice about this.

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[shitlord]

lay low untill shes 18, you dont want legal trouble, especially with this

[Foxscotch]

depends on ur state, dogg

[K1ng_0f_N0thing]

My friend's a sophomore, and his girlfriend's in her first year of college or something. It's just a two year difference, I personally don't think it's that big.

As for advice, if you really have feeling for her and all, continue to date her. If it bugs you that much, just end it off, maybe keep contact with her though. I've never been in a relationship, so that's the best advice I can give you. Best of luck.

[$trinick]

Depends how serious you are about her. I know you just started, but it does. If you're just loving around, well..

If you're loving around, then keep quiet. If you're just having legal, safe fun dating then I wouldn't worry about it. I wouldn't bring up her age until she turns 16 though because 16->18 isn't too bad but 15->18 sounds pretty bad.

However, long term, you gotta realize it's gonna suck. Even if you go to community college to be near her, and when you both graduate you go to the same college, the age gap is gonna be really hard when you turn 21.. and 22.. and 23..

[Teneksi]

legally, potentially horrible idea unless you're abstinent until june 2018

the age gap is gonna be really hard when you turn 21.. and 22.. and 23..

but anything beyond that it doesn't matter at all

[Foxscotch]

legally, potentially horrible idea unless you're abstinent until june 2018

depends on state. in many states she'll be legal in a couple of months

[TheABELBOTO]

You can still date but like trinick said keep low until she's 18 if you're going to get close.

forget, some slut in her freshmen year got knocked up by some senior and no one knew by who until she graduated in my HS.

[Midevil Warrior]

Ceist, honest, we don't want you to go to jail. For real man, that would suck. Date her if you want, just don't get all forgetin' serious and stuff.

[SirLancelot7]

If you're both in high-school, it isn't even a big deal.  The trouble comes after your graduation.  However, if you've established a relationship while both at high-school and then you graduate, then you need to keep things all above-board until she turns eighteen.  Also, if you don't let her date other people, you might be shafting her high-school experience, since she couldn't go on dates to like.. dances or anything.  Food for thought.

[YounqD]

Trust me its hard I'm going through something almost exactly the same. I'm 18 and shes 16, I'm a freshmen in college while shes still a junior in hs. We barely get to see each other and her parents don't make it any easier.

Also, if you don't let her date other people, you might be shafting her high-school experience, since she couldn't go on dates to like.. dances or anything.  Food for thought.

In our early stages of dating this was a pretty hard problem to deal with, because even though she really liked me at that time she would say she had an incomplete feeling she said because she didn't date anyone else (I'm her first boyfriend) but after awhile she began to become okay with it and just want only me.

Overall I would say to just stick around doesn't matter what anyone thinks about the age besides the law, but if you guys aren't messing around then the law shouldn't be a problem. Hell I had a friend who was a junior and his gf was a freshman now hes in college as a freshmen and shes a junior they're still together.

[Ceist]

i appreciate all the advice. to answer any questions, we just recently met, as in a week ago. the age thing has just been bugging me recently because of all the bad stuff that can go down. we're not loving either, and i definitely won't until she reaches 18 or 17 at least.

Trust me its hard I'm going through something almost exactly the same. I'm 18 and shes 16, I'm a freshmen in college while shes still a junior in hs. We barely get to see each other and her parents don't make it any easier.

In our early stages of dating this was a pretty hard problem to deal with, because even though she really liked me at that time she would say she had an incomplete feeling she said because she didn't date anyone else (I'm her first boyfriend) but after awhile she began to become okay with it and just want only me.

Overall I would say to just stick around doesn't matter what anyone thinks about the age besides the law, but if you guys aren't messing around then the law shouldn't be a problem. Hell I had a friend who was a junior and his gf was a freshman now hes in college as a freshmen and shes a junior they're still together.

This is the exact opposite for me and her. She's had a boyfriend before me, but i've never had a girlfriend or even my first kiss.

I know a few other people in my school have had similar relationships with their peers who were a bit younger than them. the only one that really stuck out was that last year a senior who was 19 was dating a freshman who was 14. (they're still dating)