That's your problem.
You know what, no it's not. It's your fault for having stuffty grammar. Yes, I get it, you are deaf, you cannot hear but you are 39 and you have been educated for years now. AND you have seen our grammar, but yours hasn't improved. I could not read that sentence at all not because I'm stupid, it's because the grammar was so horrible and the sentence was confusing. Sorry if I sound like a douche, but that's the truth.