because they're marginalized...
That doesn't impact on the need to be proud of having a loveuality. Everyone has a loveuality (yes, I will class aloveuality as a loveuality). There's nothing to be proud of.
The general view is that loveuality is not a choice, right? Therefore it's set in stone at conception (if not birth, allowing for theories regarding the impact of hormones during pregnancy).
So it's not something you choose or was chosen for you. Natural Hair colour is something you have no choice in and your parents don't choose for you (it might be predictable, but that doesn't mean it's chosen). I wouldn't expect anyone to be proud of being blonde or brunette or ginger or black haired. I wouldn't expect them to be ashamed either, but not feeling shame doesn't necessitate the existence of pride.
Being marginalised is a result of being part of a minority. It's always going to happen to some extent. But that doesn't at all mean that you should feel more proud for belonging to that minority.
Do you understand where I'm coming from with this view?
do you think people know what gay or bi or straight means, before they're told?
No, but I think that if you're in the context of a conversation whereby you're discussing loveualities then you're very likely to recognise at least the 3 main loveualities (Hetero/Homo/Bi), and that should you have even the most meagre amount of common sense and grasp of the English language, then should someone say "aloveual" you should understand the meaning of the word based on it's prefix and knowledge of the other words.
But if you're in a conversation and you just say "He's ace", then how is someone supposed to understand that it means "aloveual", unless you've already explained it to them alongside explaining what "aloveual" is (which isn't likely since most anyone you start a conversation with on this subject already knows what it means or can work it out).
Any rational person is going to assume you're delivering a compliment to someone completely out of the blue, because that is what "ace" means in normal language. That or maybe they'd assume you're a tribal who doesn't have a complete grasp of phrases.
So in any conversation where you use it, unless you're teaching someone from the ground up, you're just going to have to waste time explaining it to them when you say it and confuse them.
And then you run the risk, particularly if referring to your own loveuality, as coming off as egotistic and self-complimenting, as I explained above and before.
why is it a problem for you?? if they want to explain it to people then what's the issue? that's not actually a complaint you can have because it doesn't affect you
What's with this? I've seen you do this a fair few times before in an argument, jumping to criticising someone for actually having a problem or opinion in the first place.
I can have my own opinion of the word. I'm not saying you can't use it. You can call yourself a loveual-teetotaller for all I care, but it doesn't mean I can't think your choice of words is stupid and egotistic.
I can have a complaint regardless of whether something affects me or not. It doesn't affect you that I have a complaint, so by your own logic, why do you have issue with me having an issue?
That view is illogical and silly. By the same standard I can't be an advocate for gay rights because it doesn't affect me as a straight person. But I don't think you'd be telling me off if that were the case.
Calm down a little bit more in arguments. Don't take it all so personally. I'm only here to enter friendly debate with people. I'm not on a personal crusade against you because we have differing opinons (especially when it's only an opinion on the use of a single word).
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