hey blogland, skateaton has become sadaton.

[Clone v.117]

That really sucks to hear man.
There is a lot of sound advice that will be wasted on you right now. Time heals all wounds, though you usually don't want to hear that during the time.
You've hit a rough spot and your in a different environment and state of mind to the self you've always known, but what really matters is what you do.
Changes oft come at the lowest points in our lives, and when you're down on your luck with little to loose why not try make changes?
The thing I wish you would think on is that school, hobbies, social circles and relationships aren't actually always a big deal. If you can shift your focus from a longing to have the same mundane existence as the people around you, who think they have it right, you can really make a difference in your life. Find what's important to you, maybe meditate for a while and think about life, existence and the nature of our reality. Find what you care for and embrace it. School doesn't matter for stuff when you leave, you won't see 95% of your schoolmates after you graduate, relationships are feeble and you're still at the starting line of life.
When people are able to shed their unnecessary, socially influenced and completely ridiculous worries and strive for themselves and what they care about, they exude a magnetism that attracts not only people, but happiness.
There are a lot of different people in the world, and not all can see things the same way, but I hope you can see things through a clear lens and shed your strife.
I was excited to see you posting here again, I feel like I haven't seen you here for a long time.
I hope the best for you Skate.

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[Skateaton]

skate i know you probably have no loving clue who i am and you have no reason to give a stuff about me or my opinion but

i just want you to know that i think you're a pretty cool guy and whatever reason you have to be sad you probably have another 10 reasons to be happy, but you just don't realize it since your focus has turned to the bad aspects of your life.  the past might be forgeted but just remember that your future can't get any brighter unless you say forget the past and move on.  you have your whole life ahead of you, you can't afford to spend your time as a youngster feeling down and not like doing anything.

eventually you'll be old and gray and you'll regret not making the most of your time as a younger person with a more capable body.  we all have times when we get down and depressed, and i know its a lot easier said than done when it come to just saying "forget it" but thats what you'll have to do if you ever want to be happy.  try not to dwell on the past because the past is over.  you have a blank canvas that is the rest of your life.  create a work of art.

thank you so much. it honestly means so much to me that you took the time to write this.

i'm trying my hardest but i keep trying to stay in contact with my ex and it's just hurting more because we aren't talking as much as we used to. it feels like she is ignoring me when she used to answer asap.

That really sucks to hear man.
There is a lot of sound advice that will be wasted on you right now. Time heals all wounds, though you usually don't want to hear that during the time.
You've hit a rough spot and your in a different environment and state of mind to the self you've always known, but what really matters is what you do.
Changes oft come at the lowest points in our lives, and when you're down on your luck with little to loose why not try make changes?
The thing I wish you would think on is that school, hobbies, social circles and relationships aren't actually always a big deal. If you can shift your focus from a longing to have the same mundane existence as the people around you, who think they have it right, you can really make a difference in your life. Find what's important to you, maybe meditate for a while and think about life, existence and the nature of our reality. Find what you care for and embrace it. School doesn't matter for stuff when you leave, you won't see 95% of your schoolmates after you graduate, relationships are feeble and you're still at the starting line of life.
When people are able to shed their unnecessary, socially influenced and completely ridiculous worries and strive for themselves and what they care about, they exude a magnetism that attracts not only people, but happiness.
There are a lot of different people in the world, and not all can see things the same way, but I hope you can see things through a clear lens and shed your strife.
I was excited to see you posting here again, I feel like I haven't seen you here for a long time.
I hope the best for you Skate.

again thank you. I just don't know what to do anymore though. I've been trying to say the same thing throughout the past couple of weeks (that relationships don't matter and all that stuff) but it still bothers me that i was thrown away like dirt. like none of the memories we had together meant anything. Like none of the things we did together happened, like we never were dating. Or like we never even knew each other. And I know this wont matter a year from now, but I can't help but feel abandoned and given up on.

The worst part is the other day i was being a massive friend emotional piece of stuff and she told me "There's no trying again skate. I've lost feelings for you, and i'm set on being single myself for the rest of my life. You were the best boyfriend i've ever have, and I am really going to miss you, but I'm just tired of being with someone right now."

She ignores me sometimes and hits up some forgetboy on twitter who admitted to her that he doesn't have emotional attachment to girls, just loveual. and they're gaming and stuff now and i miss doing that with her and i can't loving thinking about how my life used to be a month ago and how much I miss every feeling I had back then.

sorry for writing so much and being all over the place.

[ABlockOfCheese]

thank you so much. it honestly means so much to me that you took the time to write this.

i'm trying my hardest but i keep trying to stay in contact with my ex and it's just hurting more because we aren't talking as much as we used to. it feels like she is ignoring me when she used to answer asap.

hey man you're welcome.  I used to feel the same way about this one girl and all of a sudden I met this other girl that made me totally forget about the first.  Someone will come along to help fix that hole in your heart, but you've got to open up first.  If your ex moved on then it might be time for you to do likewise.  Don't lose hope, because theres someone out there for you, you've just got to look.  Best of luck to you.

[Frequency]

well if you're not doing much IRL right now, maybe you should try to find some things online that would motivate you to get back into one of your hobbies or something new maybe.

could be a story, a video, or maybe some poser will make you say "hey i can do that better"

i'm just mentioning this because it's kind of what helped me before

anyway, I'm sorry life's taking a dump on you right now.

you know, it probably sounds lame, but I often find myself thinking
"life's all about having the power and exercising it."

You've just got to find the things that you can control and exercise that control. That can be really motivating, imo.

or exercise. i've been doing that lol

[VerticalHorizon]

I hate to sound like it's not a big deal, but the way I get over my soul crippling depression is exactly the way my mom told me to get over it; I just... decide not to be sad I guess.
She told me I won't know how to do it, it will just happen one day and that's it. It's like one day I was sitting around being sad and went, "Wait, forget this, I don't have to feel like this." so I forced myself not to.
I really don't like giving people this advice cause it sounds like I am belittling or lacking empathy, but trust me, I have felt some real bullstuff- abusive households, deaths, losing everything I cherished and having to start over, gender identity disorder, multiple Self Delete attempts- but it has been the only thing anyone has ever told me that actually helped. Every day when I get up to go to work, I say to myself "Will I be really loving sad like a little bitch all day? Or will I be happy and get work done and have fun with my friends on the computer after work? I will be happy." and the use of "I will" and "I am" is important cause anyone can say "I try" or "Will I" but only those who actually accomplish anything say "I will, I am, and I did".

[randomtroll39]

look at cat pictures
or dog pictures
or any cute animal pictures
they'll help temporarily
k your situation sounds too bad for that.
try forget about her, if she's going to hit up a forgetboy right after dumping you I think you should try forget about her and go back to your hobbies.
(note: i've never been in a relationship and this advice is just me trying to help)

[fred da kiko]

Make something. The only reason I'm not still lying in bed all day and feeling like stuff over a girl because I put all the energy I did have into making videos and art. It draws your attention and effort. The only times I feel bad are when I dwell on the stuff that hurt me in the past. When it comes to girls, breakups, and all that sort of stuff, just remember that getting over it and moving on aren't the same thing. Moving on is something you do yourself, getting over is out of your control.

[Sheepocalypse]

Why do so many young people on this forum have depression.

They're called mood swings.

[Frequency]

They're called mood swings.

it's called not being a Captain Falcon main B^)

[Daswiruch]

i mean i guess i can try skateboarding again. but i don't feel motivated.

own up to your name

[TrollBoat]

it's called not being a Captain Falcon main B^)

[SWAT One]

Been dealing with this lately as well.

My advice:
Just do stuff.  Keep doing positive things to distract you to the point where they are no longer distractions and you are just in practice of making good choices.  And you won't be running away from the other stuff at that point as well.

Some suggestions:

• Confide in with friends.  If you have someone who you can trust, share your problems with them.  Ask if they can be there for you during the process, and ask for them to keep you accountable.
• Get a hobby of creating something, especially something where the reward is something you can enjoy.  Try something like baking or cooking.  After you finish baking or cooking, you not only get to have the sense of accomplishment to encourage you, but also something nice for you to eat.  You're the cook, so you can decide.
• Take a leisurely walk.  It's good exercise, you get to experience your surroundings casually rather than by a speeding car.  Walking for around an hour can be good for you.  Let your mind wander.
• Clean up your surroundings.  If your room is a mess, it's easy to associate that with your image, and therefore, your character.  Keeping your room, house, apartment (etc.) neat can give you a more positive outlook on life and give you less frustration daily.

[Skateaton]

thank you so much guys.

i just don't feel like i care enough about myself to do these things though. I just don't see it in myself to want to do anything about it. in a sense im sort of comfortable feeling like this.

and i don't like that.

[XR-7]

I hope you feel better soon.

Also, is your name pronounced skate-a-tawn? I've imagined it as skate-ee-tin all this time.

[Frequency]

and i don't like that.

then i guess you're not as comfortable with it as you think you are :^)

Also, is your name pronounced skate-a-tawn? I've imagined it as skate-ee-tin all this time.

"tuhn"

'cause he used to skate a ton.