i think its more of a repeating cycle that takes so long to go around it seems like each generation is just getting worse and worse but then again we dont know what the future holds, there are so many major changes that took place over the past 20 years that haven't existed until 20 years ago
and each generation has its handicaps, i think it's just more obvious now because with technology they have more access to the world and have the ability to show it off and we see it more often as a result
but tony does have a point with the punishments
so OP is essentially "I had stuffty parents so everyone else should have stuffty parents too"
if you had parents who didnt punish you, you probably have stuffty parents who dont care
like my parents would beat my ass if i did something that was harmful to myself in order to train me not to do it.
with a young and inexperienced kid, just telling them not to do something can make them be like "pfft sure drinking bleach will kill me i'm gonna drink it just to see if it does!" vs "damn i really dont want my ass to burn so im just not going to do this because it probably will kill me if my parents are serious enough to beat my ass over it."
not that spanking always magically just works because it works, each child is different and parents should have the right to experiment and see what is most effective but just doing nothing because you're too much of a pusillanimous individual to temporally hurt your kid in order to save its life or are too loving lazy to raise your kid knowing that society will do it for you, youre a sickening parent