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| OrangeMan:
why are you offended by asbergers? Now I'm offended too. |
| Perry:
--- Quote from: Tokthree on January 06, 2017, 07:35:04 PM ---As someone with Asperger's I can tell you that this book is almost certainly useless for the simple reason that no one person with Asperger's Syndrome is the same as any other and therefore cannot be treated nor helped in the same way. The chances that the book was legitimately written by someone who has Asperger's syndrome is incredibly unlikely because anyone who has worked as hard as we have to in order to reach the point where our disability doesn't actually effect us would know how little they can help another person purely from their own experiences. Plus, being told that you need to change who you are in order to accomplish anything is the most insulting thing I could possibly imagine. I became who I am and got where I am by accepting who I was and what made me who I was, not because I listened to what everyone around me told me to do which was to change myself in order to "cure" myself of the problems my Asperger's Syndrome caused me. If you can't understand why this is at least a moderately insulting gesture, regardless of who you receive it from, then you don't have any right to be commenting on how someone with Asperger's Syndrome feels about something. --- End quote --- One of the key things that i'm noticing now and that's really showing is that you're both getting a little offended over a kind gesture, which i guess is a telltale sign of aspergers in this case. Life isn't a cakewalk; there are things in life that some people lack called executive function, which is a telltale sign of aspergers. Based on the title, the book probably goes over a lot of important executive functions that are vital to learn if you actually want to survive in the real world without the shelter of parents. We have to do our taxes every month, and yeah it sucks, but none of us are saying 'this is insulting, you making me change my ways in order to conform to you!' because that's loving stupid. The book will probably go over things that you NEED to learn or else you'll end up homeless and broken, and if you choose to be offended by it and completely rub it in your parents face, it's you who will take the L. On top of that, your parents went out of their way to buy something. It doesn't matter what it is or how offended you feel, they still did something in an act of kindness. When people do something with good intentions, you should at least acknowledge that and not be so upset. |
| Damp:
--- Quote from: Drydess on January 06, 2017, 07:24:21 PM --- i mean they bought u for 10 so i wouldn't get your hopes up so high --- End quote --- Guys I Am Being Bullied by DryDess. Let Us Fight Against Drydess In Mine Craft. |
| Tokthree:
--- Quote from: Perry on January 06, 2017, 08:19:54 PM ---One of the key things that i'm noticing now and that's really showing is that you're both getting a little offended over a kind gesture, which i guess is a telltale sign of aspergers in this case. Life isn't a cakewalk; there are things in life that some people lack called executive function, which is a telltale sign of aspergers. Based on the title, the book probably goes over a lot of important executive functions that are vital to learn if you actually want to survive in the real world without the shelter of parents. We have to do our taxes every month, and yeah it sucks, but none of us are saying 'this is insulting, you making me change my ways in order to conform to you!' because that's loving stupid. The book will probably go over things that you NEED to learn or else you'll end up homeless and broken, and if you choose to be offended by it and completely rub it in your parents face, it's you who will take the L. On top of that, your parents went out of their way to buy something. It doesn't matter what it is or how offended you feel, they still did something in an act of kindness. When people do something with good intentions, you should at least acknowledge that and not be so upset. --- End quote --- Your complete lack of any understanding regarding what it's like to have Asperger's syndrome leaves me with no desire to continue this discussion. Also; just because they're your parents doesn't mean the things they say can't be insulting or hurtful. If you believe otherwise then you have no idea how much a parent's ignorance in regards to your condition can hurt |
| Perry:
--- Quote from: Tokthree on January 06, 2017, 09:11:59 PM ---Your complete lack of any understanding regarding what it's like to have Asperger's syndrome leaves me with no desire to continue this discussion. Also; just because they're your parents doesn't mean the things they say can't be insulting or hurtful. If you believe otherwise then you have no idea how much a parent's ignorance in regards to your condition can hurt --- End quote --- But... that makes no sense. Because the parents give you something to help cope with your medical condition, they are wrong and are ignorant and want to hurt you? I'm sorry but that makes zero sense do you ever consider the fact that maybe you and him having aspergers is resulting in you both being so stubborn and him being ungrateful? |
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