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my parents bought me a book and I am insulted
Magus:
Book title sounds insulting to me too.
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--- Quote from: Perry on January 06, 2017, 09:20:22 PM ---do you ever consider the fact that maybe you and him having aspergers is resulting in you both being so stubborn and him being ungrateful?
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parents should understand how their son/daughter became who they were and become who they are right now and they should be accepting for that. parents should understand that you are lovely and great just the way you are and what you always were and they will have the will to protect you and your personality. giving them a book of how to live a life is not very accepting. being autistic is being special and different, not bad and a must-change.
everyone here is different, including OP. they shouldn't be judged regardless of who it is, parents don't always give spot-on advices and sometimes they do just as much mistakes as anyone else would do. that is part of a human being. i am not implying that what they did is a mistake but it's not a very wise action to just hold back on your honesty and just give them a book just because they think their son doesn't understand what they will say to him.
what tokthree was trying to say was that autistic people are, well, special and different, and i mean so is everyone else. trying to be passive-aggressive to your son by giving someone of how to live a life normally is not wise at all. that's someone telling you to be different.
if i told you that you can't stop shaking your leg harmlessly, like a soft shake, nothing annoying, and you do it, and someone tells you that's something you must change or stop doing the action, what would you say?
Freek:
i agree with perry. i don't really see an issue with his parents giving him the book. if he reads it, good. it probably has some useful information, asperger's or not. if he doesn't, oh well. his parents aren't going to nail him to the cross. if I had autism and my mom bought me a book about my syndrome, i probably wouldn't care because it's not in a malicious manner. if the book were making fun of the disorder or something then sure that's wrong, but this book is DESIGNED for those with asperger's. it's not a new york times best seller, it's a 1 dollar book, get over it
Foxscotch:
--- Quote from: Freek on January 06, 2017, 09:54:33 PM ---if I had autism and my mom bought me a book about my syndrome, i probably wouldn't care because it's not in a malicious manner.
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what if your mom bought you a book about living as a white person? not as a joke of some kind, but because she genuinely believed there was a problem to be solved?
Perry:
--- Quote from: Timestamp on January 06, 2017, 09:50:43 PM ---if i told you that you can't stop shaking your leg harmlessly, like a soft shake, nothing annoying, and you do it, and someone tells you that's something you must change or stop doing the action, what would you say?
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what if your parents gave you a book titled "15 ways to stop your leg from shaking & live a better life." would you instantly feel insulted because they bought a book pertaining to an issue you have or would you be grateful that they care enough to help you address the issue