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my family hates me.
Damp:
ok forums I got no one else to talk to, so here you goooooooooooooooooooooooooo
im not a good kid. I don't mange my grades in the best way and much of my activities consist on sitting in front of a monitor. But, for the most part, I'd like to think i am a passive kid. I don't try to start any fights(damp cough cough cough not on the forums cough), I don't give attitude or backtalk to anyone, and I mainly try to foster a good relationship with my family and friends.
being a asian family though, means my dad holds me to super high expectations. probably because when he was younger he did a bunch schooly stuff and did really really well.
my dad wants me to be better, so he tends to try and give me """"""""""""""""""""lectures""""""""""""""""" on what to do. these lectures alot of times just seems to be a way for him to let his steam off.
for example: i asked my dad "dad, how does netflix gain its money?". He then proceeds to tell me how netflix gains his money. After that he talks about his failed business and how he is a failure. then after that he talks about how the family is in shambles and we kids are also failures. ever sense this netflix conversation I have grown in such disgust that now I stop talking whenever he brings the conversation to a low. every conversation we have now turns into a trap and he never realizes that the reason why i talk to him less often is because of it. even when i tell him straight to his face about incidences where a conversation came into a vent session, he ignores me.
my sister constantly talks with him behinds my back. I can understand if you talk behind a childs back because you might be extremely stressed with the kid or might try to find ways to better the kid. but there becomes this line between trying to better your kid and making bad stories behind your siblings back. I think its just away for her to justify being this passive aggressive self around me.
the main thing they always complain about me is that I won't talk when they bring up a touchy subject. I stop responding because the conversations they make end up being this passive aggressive bullstuff. when my sister drove me to school the other day, she parked in the parking lot, locked the doors, and said "Oscar, tell me why you won't talk or I won't unlock the doors". I manged to open the doors before she could re lock them again and went to school.
whats so funny about this is when my dad and sister gossip about me they can't really find any dirt of me being hostile, because all I do is stay silent. So my sister makes up some lies about me and thats where she can feed her ego, and my dad can have more reasons to try and trap me in a conversation.
sorry if this is messy as hell I just really really really really wanted to say something
RedGajin:
dont blame em
fr tho, obviously you not talking/engaging with your family seems to be the issue that your family has with you. i mean, if your sister literally locks you in the car, this is obviously a big deal to them. not to mention you just didn't address it and forced yourself out of the vehicles. i have strict parents too, my dads african (which is basically an asian dad), and i get lectured all the time. that doesn't mean i cant have enjoyable conversations with them, alienating yourself from your family is just making the situation worse. make more of an effort, even if it seems like they aren't giving any back.
idk how old you are, but parents outright hating their children is very common. your sister could just a be a bitch tho, which isn't uncommon. but thats still your family b
Neventii:
Were you drunk when you wrote this? Holy stuff.
Mardalf:
can't really offer advice except don't for God's sake let too big a rift form between you and someone because it's much harder to fix something before it goes totally to pot
also inb4 spanking
Nonnel:
hm. leave.