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| Did you ever deal with long distance relationships? |
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| Planr:
no, but i dont think theyre worth getting in to. although my buddy captain c did a long distance relationship with a girl (he was in UK she was in the US) and now they're happily married in new england. |
| PhantOS:
--- Quote from: Dreams_Of_Cheese on August 21, 2017, 12:41:39 PM ---yes so obviously dont even bother. right. not even memeing here, you sound like someone's done what you're describing to you. maybe it's how you're coping, but consider that your experience is not representative of everyone else's. it might not be. --- End quote --- yes, you can bother with ldrs if you want. all i'm saying is that they aren't sustainable beyond a month or two tops, and , compared to a personal and intimate relationship that takes place in real life rather than over dms, is the least favorable option its like saying 'are one night stands relationships?' obviously they aren't but if you want to get into semantics, there's definitely a bond/relationship that exists for like 30-40 minutes as you're loving. ldrs are a very long one night stand where you dont actually have love and it will continue for as long as you can entertain yourself by typing messages every day. eventually, one of the two parties gets bored of communicating, not having love, not socializing with the other party irl, or not having any income. from there it's either stop the ldr or take a massive leap in commitment and visit them irl, which is already a crapshoot that costs a lot of money. sure if you commit hard enough and eventually you move in with them or they move in with you, it can become an actual relationship, but if that doesn't happen it's just a severely short game that needs to end eventually. in that case, i'm entirely correct to say it's not sustainable |
| Dreams_Of_Cheese:
--- Quote from: Planr on August 21, 2017, 12:44:00 PM ---(he was in UK she was in the US) and now they're happily married in new england. --- End quote --- sounds like a good compromise. --- Quote from: PhantOS on August 21, 2017, 12:45:34 PM ---yes, you can bother with ldrs if you want. all i'm saying is that they aren't sustainable beyond a month or two tops, and , compared to a personal and intimate relationship that takes place in real life rather than over dms, is the least favorable option --- End quote --- well yeah it's not favorable. i dunno why you're trying to hard to prove that, it's basically the goal to eventually get together in person. --- Quote from: PhantOS on August 21, 2017, 12:45:34 PM ---yes, you can bother with ldrs if you want. all i'm saying is that they aren't sustainable beyond a month or two tops, and , compared to a personal and intimate relationship that takes place in real life rather than over dms, is the least favorable option its like saying 'are one night stands relationships?' obviously they aren't but if you want to get into semantics, there's definitely a bond/relationship that exists for like 30-40 minutes as you're loving. ldrs are a very long one night stand where you dont actually have love and it will continue for as long as you can entertain yourself by typing messages every day. eventually, one of the two parties gets bored of communicating, not having love, not socializing with the other party irl, or not having any income. from there it's either stop the ldr or take a massive leap in commitment and visit them irl, which is already a crapshoot that costs a lot of money. sure if you commit hard enough and eventually you move in with them or they move in with you, it can become an actual relationship, but if that doesn't happen it's just a severely short game that needs to end eventually --- End quote --- holy forget bro stop editing your post while im replying |
| IkeTheGeneric:
--- Quote from: PhantOS on August 21, 2017, 12:33:55 PM ---are you going to tell me that there's a single long-distance relationship that can sustain itself longer than like, 2 weeks? --- End quote --- Yeah? Even if my relationships didn't turn out perfectly it was still fun while it lasted. I don't regret trying long distance and the decision to go ldr ultimately wasn't what ended the relationships. I'm not gonna hash this out to any logical extremes because everyone else here agrees you have no clue what you're talking about. Plus I don't care enough to put effort into proving my point here, I don't gain anything out of reaching a compromise with an unreasonable party. |
| Rally:
--- Quote from: PhantOS on August 21, 2017, 12:40:01 PM ---however, there's a certain threshold where you can't advance your relationship anymore without socializing in person --- End quote --- I mean nobody wants to be in an LDR forever. The goal is to eventually be together in person. I don't think anybody here wants to be in a permanent LDR or is even arguing that there's any benefits to that. --- Quote from: PhantOS on August 21, 2017, 12:45:34 PM ---all i'm saying is that they aren't sustainable beyond a month or two tops --- End quote --- Is there any kind of reasoning behind this statement lol? This seems like something that's entirely dependent on the people involved. |
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