Author Topic: i�m traveling to china to see my dying grandma (Read 1051 times)

Damp · October 18, 2018, 08:26:00 PM

grandma has dementia and is currently in currently critical condition. she�s expected to live for 2 months max. i leave in two weeks. even though my blood traces like 99 percent chinese i don�t know a lick of mandarin, never been to the country, and have never seen my grandma or my other relatives.

this is gonna suck my first time seeing her she won�t even remember who anyone is

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Boomsticks Alt · October 18, 2018, 08:28:07 PM

wish you luck

cblock360 · October 18, 2018, 08:39:44 PM

That sucks big time.

My condolences.

Damp · October 18, 2018, 08:45:44 PM

holy forget this has nothing to do with the current topic but this poor man
https://youtu.be/No9X4eQhWDI

forget someone should give him hugs and justice

Aide33 · October 18, 2018, 08:52:37 PM

what province are you going to?

Damp · October 18, 2018, 08:55:59 PM

qingdao, both of my parents hometown

Insert Name Here� · October 18, 2018, 09:11:55 PM

Quote from: Damp on October 18, 2018, 08:45:44 PM

holy forget this has nothing to do with the current topic but this poor man
https://youtu.be/No9X4eQhWDI

forget someone should give him hugs and justice

soul crushing video but at least there's good news about it

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-aBwO7NQrS0

gofundme went beyond what was needed to replace his entire collection and Lego is trying to get in touch with him as well

BlocklandBlockoCity · October 18, 2018, 09:54:52 PM

didn't know you were ~~made in china~~ descendent from china

but jokes aside, it must be a bad experience to suffer from dementia in your life, adding to the fact she's about to die in a couple months or less, there won't be really anything else to do about this, but mourn about it while you wait for death to reap her.
i have reasons to be that pessimistic rather than optimistic

Drydess · October 18, 2018, 10:08:45 PM

from my experience, treat her like a new person every time you talk to her. sound encouraging for w/e she�s been up to and tell her about how everything�s been going great for you recently
bonus points if you subtly throw in a story she told you in the past

sucks but you can get over it. odds are she wont so make the best out of it either way

Aide33 · October 18, 2018, 11:26:04 PM

i wonder if the blf is available behind the great firewall :o

you might have to use a vpn for everything

beachbum111111 · October 18, 2018, 11:52:48 PM

I know it's been like 4 years since we talked in voice but I don't you have a deep southern accent? Never expected you to be chinese.

Damp · October 19, 2018, 06:48:54 AM

good advice guys. i appreciate it

Quote from: beachbum111111 on October 18, 2018, 11:52:48 PM

I know it's been like 4 years since we talked in voice but I don't you have a deep southern accent? Never expected you to be chinese.

i was born here and never learned chinese. some of my friends say i have still like traces of asian accent in my voice but if you heard my voice the first choice you would probably guess is white

Aide33 · October 19, 2018, 08:38:37 AM

Quote from: beachbum111111 on October 18, 2018, 11:52:48 PM

I know it's been like 4 years since we talked in voice but I don't you have a deep southern accent? Never expected you to be chinese.

A lot of my chinese friends don't have an accent when they speak, most of them are born here but they speak mandarin(or cantonese) at home

Conan · October 19, 2018, 12:28:04 PM

abc represent

condolences to you, even if you aren't connected. family matters a lot in chinese culture, and regardless of the lack of previous contact, you probably will feel something seeing her if your parents internalized those values to you. i had a similar experience with my great grandma.

also blf is available last time i was in chinese territory, though maybe the rules are a bit different in hong kong than on mainland. been a decade since i was on mainland.

beachbum111111 · October 20, 2018, 10:10:11 PM

Quote from: Conan on October 19, 2018, 12:28:04 PM

also blf is available last time i was in chinese territory, though maybe the rules are a bit different in hong kong than on mainland. been a decade since i was on mainland.

Internet in the mainland is so stuff you wont be able to tell either way.