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worries and thoughts
bloody jumper:
--- Quote from: Ceist on February 08, 2022, 08:29:08 PM ---that i'll never find someone who i can love and love me in return.
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This one used to be the case for me, but I basically just came to terms with that I'm going to be that weird uncle who never got married and has thousands of dollars worth of nerdy stuff at his house, because I don't have kids as a drain on my finances. I have a lot of issues, both mentally and physically, that would basically make me a burden on anyone I decided to get involved with, and that it's probably better for everyone if I stay single. For those thinking that I'm isolating myself, I'm not, I have a friend group that I love and care for very much, and they care about me in return, it just seems like romantic love isn't for me.
My main worry now is being a failure, and not being good enough, but I think everyone deals with that feeling in one fashion or another.
Masterlegodude:
--- Quote from: bloody jumper on February 09, 2022, 07:01:59 PM ---This one used to be the case for me, but I basically just came to terms with that I'm going to be that weird uncle who never got married and has thousands of dollars worth of nerdy stuff at his house, because I don't have kids as a drain on my finances. I have a lot of issues, both mentally and physically, that would basically make me a burden on anyone I decided to get involved with, and that it's probably better for everyone if I stay single. For those thinking that I'm isolating myself, I'm not, I have a friend group that I love and care for very much, and they care about me in return, it just seems like romantic love isn't for me.
My main worry now is being a failure, and not being good enough, but I think everyone deals with that feeling in one fashion or another.
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This hurts to read
But only because i can relate to this feeling
bloody jumper:
--- Quote from: Masterlegodude on February 09, 2022, 07:19:14 PM ---This hurts to read
But only because i can relate to this feeling
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I think a lot of people have a similar thought process. Love requires a lot of effort, time, dedication, and not a small amount of luck in finding the right person. Many folks are just tired of constantly putting themselves out there, only for it to result in wasted effort and hurt feelings. Some people are lucky enough to put themselves out there and find the right person, and then there's everyone else. The former people will constantly tell you to 'keep trying', but the average person only has so much emotional stamina before they find the prospect not worthy of anymore sacrifice.
The only thing I can tell anyone struggling with these feelings is to try to find fulfillment in platonic love, be there for your friends and family, and you'll find your heart was full all along.
Soukuw:
I worry I will weaken to a point where I can no longer hunt ass to sustain myself.
Trogtor:
--- Quote from: The Resonte! on February 08, 2022, 01:44:01 PM ---that i'll be unable to focus on studying. it's been hard to focus recently
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I went back to college last semester and I even though I made good grades (because it was all open notes) Im afraid to take another semester because I am incapable of sitting down and just studying. i maybe spent a total of 10 hours over the span of three months looking at my textbook. I don't feel like I learned anything in those three months.