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« on: January 07, 2013, 05:02:01 AM »
i would have recommended the "force yourself to be social" option in the past, but here's what i think now:
you're unhappy and lack confidence because you're comparing yourself to others. it's a horrible habit to be in, but we all do it at some stage. that's what you want to work on. basically, you've grown into an introvert and now you just have to reconcile that.
you can't change yourself into an extrovert, so all you're going to do is spend the rest of your life fighting against the current if you go for the "force yourself to be social" option. there's nothing wrong with being an introvert, the majority of the population are (including me). the key is to just take the self-judgement and thinking out of the picture. if you're ruminating over past conversations thinking of responses you should have said but didn't, you're over thinking. it's not a beneficial habit - all it will do is make you awkward. over thinking how you walk will make you walk like a handicap.
all you need to do is learn to just be happy with what you've got and stay in the moment, you'll find it easier to integrate with people and will become less awkward naturally as a result
get into meditation