I know what you mean sanvich, I had the assassin join my party and all the time, I even have a higher lockpicking than him yet he always says I can open that. And the one guy that I never liked was the one black dude with the blonde hair, I try to talk to my party members and I would always loose points just talking to him. I'm not sure if there's much of a bonus with keeping relationships high with male charactors when you're not playing as gay but I at least try to get some background and the guy is just an acid tongue.