i mean like, when i use one, i do a line, and if it isnt what i want, i undo it and do it again until it is. most of the time it ends up looking very similar to the reference, which makes me feel like i practically traced it.
That's the problem, you're only tracing, not sketching.
I'd suggest to sketch a few circles and simple shapes and if you can do that then you can apply into drawing your characters, like I can guarantee you that 99.9% good artists (including the people here on this thread) use simple shapes right before diving into adding any detail, like so (examples below)



(^^^ This pic show how the artist does their characters step by step so you can see how they start simple before adding the details later on)
Hope this helps you out with your current issue. Also all of the artwork feature in this post belong to their respectful artists.