You are missing the point Bisjac, someone who moderates over a community can not then be a douche to the people who are part of it, regardless of what means he uses to communicate with the people. If you are enforcing better behavior and organization on a forum, you can not then harass members of the forum elsewhere. This is someone who now represents the board and the community. Nobody can stop Ephi doing what he wants in-game or on the forum really, but that doesn't vindicate him.
I don't really care who did what. I'm just saying if anyone needs to do the mature thing and let this go its Ephi.