ive dated girls who were really cool. and just hot as hell. but they were awful in bed.
you CANT date/marry someone you aren't loveually attracted to. no one wants to admit that, but it true. it doesn't make you shallow. and no, its not "all about the a persons insides"
you have to have a good balance of it all.
thats what dating is. you are learning what you do and dont like about chicks. and deciding what is worth changing in your standards.
without love in that scope, you are missing a HUGE part of who she is.