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Should I have not have gotten after him?

Yes.
7 (63.6%)
No.
4 (36.4%)

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Author Topic: More family issues, now with a poll.  (Read 2495 times)

So, as you know, I am surrounded by people who never listen to more, nor do they heed my two cents.

The only reason I am posting this is that I need to tell somebody, and nobody else will listen to me.


It starts out with me riding my bike. I love riding my bicycle, and I do it all the time. My brother gets the smart idea to run in front of me now and then while I'm doing so. I just start stopping when he does so, and I would start riding again when he went away.

But then he got the smart idea to have his arms in his jacket, but not in his sleeves, and to start running down a gravel driveway. I stop him short, and tell him to not do that as he is unbalanced and he could fall over and possibly hurt himself gravely. He yells at me, and follows me back home when I decide that if I go inside, so would he.

He then is told to bring the dog in by my mom, but this time just to piss me off he puts his arms in his coat again. I then force him to turn around and I unzip his jacket. He grabs my arm and starts hitting it with his other hand. I, of course, decide that he's not going to stop it and I push him against the wall and pull my arm away from him. He screamed at me "Screw you!", and ran off with his arms in his coat still.

I am then yelled at for making him scream.

So, here's where I need help on. Should I have just ignored him when he attempted to run around with his hands in his coat's torso and leave his fate to his own, or was it the right thing to worry about his well-being?

Your brother is autistic.

Nope. If he gets put in the hospital, It's entirely his fault for being so autistic.

Nope. If he gets put in the hospital, It's entirely his fault for being so autistic.

I would have then gotten grounded because I would have been outside when he got hurt.

Don't save him. Its his fault for making you so pissed off.
I would have then gotten grounded because I would have been outside when he got hurt.
Which is better. Getting your arm broken eventually? Or getting grounded and hes going say i'm sorry for pissing you off and i was an idiot. At least thats most likely what hes going to say.
« Last Edit: April 05, 2011, 12:44:43 PM by Trymos »

I'm confused, what's so bad about him coming inside with you?

I'd tell him to stop because he'll fall, then otherwise forget about it, because it wouldn't matter to me.

I'm confused, what's so bad about him coming inside with you?

He started hitting me when I tried to look out for him, and he called me names like "Little bratty baby" and "bitchface"

He started hitting me when I tried to look out for him, and he called me names like "Little bratty baby" and "bitchface"

Kill brother

Enhance humanity's gene pool

???

profit!!

let him get hurt
I'd be happy to let my sister get hurt

Kill brother

Enhance humanity's gene pool

???

profit!!
He would gain less profit by that.

How old is your brother? And how old are you?

Do the other action the next time. What you do is use this incidence as an excuse the next time it happens, if it turns out badly. Then tell your parents that you would have made him not run around with his hands in his jacket, but it's their fault you couldn't.

It's a shame that parents always assume the worst of their kids. They also shouldn't be blaming you for things if they don't give you control of them in the first place.

EDIT: Make sure you raise up the point that is emboldened.

How old is your brother?

Twelve.


And how old are you?

Fourteen.


Do the other action the next time. What you do is use this incidence as an excuse the next time it happens, if it turns out badly.

Okay.



Then tell your parents that you would have made him not run around with his hands in his jacket, but it's their fault you couldn't.

That's the thing, I always have to be involved in everything bad that happens to my brother.

It's always my fault.


It's a shame that parents always assume the worst of their kids. They also shouldn't be blaming you for things if they don't give you control of them in the first place.

Tell me about it.


my parents are started to indulge in this fad as well for some reason

the house dishwasher broke and now i have to wash the stuff by hand
I recommended we get disposable plates to preserve loving water and they laughed and went on about:
"BACK IN MY DAY WE WAS DA DISHWASHERS, IF THEY WEREN'T DONE BY THE TIME MY MOM GOT HOME, I GOT A WHOOPIN'"
am i just being an angsty teenagers or are my parents just becoming storpid

You should sit down with them and try to reason with them. Say, "You can't keep expecting me to be my brother's keeper. Sure, I'll try and look out for him, but you can't just blame be if something goes wrong. You haven't given me control, and so I don't feel that I should have the responsibility that goes with it, as this responsibility cannot be properly managed without the associated control."

Make sure that you reiterate that you will still look out for him, you just shouldn't be held with the same, if any, responsibility.