I don't know what to do, because no matter how romantic i try to be, she's with a stuffload of guys that fight me
there is your problem right there.
romance is for at least the 10th date.
or when she IS your girlfriend.
till then, a girl does not want you to be romantic. its not lovey and its not attractive.
girls want a ballsy guy to claim her. those guys who fight over her are working toward just that. and she will likely pay way more attention to them because you are looking like a pusillanimous individual right now.
the conquest dosnt have to be physical. but you are not coming off as a very good pick right now.
everyone will deny it because they dont want it to be true. but the hardfore loving fact that will never change, is girls want to be claimed by the alpha male.
you have to at least make her believe you are one of them. make yourself worthy of dating.
that flowers and poem garbage is what long term couples do.