About the 5th time ive edited o/p and I have finally narrowed my problem down to 1 thing... At&t U verse makes it close to impossible (but not fully) to port forward yourself... because they want you to pay 150$ USD for 'Technical Support' Ive googled so many floggin times... and ive yet to get anything but I know that it can be done. Their website looks like its possible to port forward but when you do the average port forward it basically returns itself back to its original state while looking like it worked
So any1 who hosts Mc with At&t U-Verse know the problem