Author Topic: shyGriff  (Read 7484 times)

Those were most certainly not the only things suggested...
true, but some of the stuff, like the manhunt didn't fit the specifications of what she was asking for.

true, but some of the stuff, like the manhunt didn't fit the specifications of what she was asking for.
I think someone suggested walking to the park.

Griff, do you have any cousins or siblings?



Those were most certainly not the only things suggested...
please, explain
what things were suggested that arnt on that list


I think someone suggested walking to the park.
please, explain
what things were suggested that arnt on that list


It's pretty hard to suggest anything to you since it doesn't seem you do much interaction and I don't know your full situation.

Interacting with others is a tough thing, especially with anyone who does have social anxiety. The thing is, you have to face it. I absolutely start cracking under pressure when addressing an audience or any person I barely know. I absolutely hate it. But, I know the only way I can get better at it is dealing with others.

True, humans are rude sometimes (more rude on the internet due to the lack of face to face contact. I could say I hate everyone here but I wouldn't be able to say it straight in their face). But, humans are also kind. There are people out there who are social enough to invite people into social situations. You may hate them for doing that, but in my experiences I feel better being pushed in than reclining and sulking.

For what I can gather, I would recommend you do seek a therapist. A therapist would definitely get you started on getting more social interaction. If anything, they'll have to be somewhat of a good start on how people work. They can also prescribe you some medication if necessary. If things should improve or if you do start to actively meet with a therapist, I suggest you possibly consider going to school. It's probably out of your social norm, but it's the best way to meet people your age. If school doesn't fit your criteria or it's not "easy" enough (trust me, it's the easiest), try to find someone your age in the family or not. If not, talk to your adults. I absolutely dislike my mom, but we sometimes get on the right foot and actually have some fun conversations.

One last idea, if you're old enough to do this. Perhaps get a part time job. Child labor laws don't really apply at 16 and 17, so you could at least interact with some coworkers from time to time.

If you aren't open enough to try this stuff, I can only say is to stay on the computer and make friends on that. At least the internet allows you to find people with similar interests. Maybe you can meet up with someone from online. Though you probably shouldn't, since the internet is full of liars and rapists. If anything, talk to some forumers on Skype if you want to. But you're not going to get far if you're not willing to crawl out of your comfort zone.

i didn't see any decent ideas
i saw a lot of joke ideas, and a lot of "go to a therapist", and a lot of vague ideas like "just go get friends lol" that didn't tell me how/where to get friends
but i didn't see decent ideas

Since no one else will, I'll be more specific.

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start out by just meeting new people online. no i don't mean omegle, meets some people you don't know much about. people on this forum, you can start with. then eventually when you feel okay about it you can go to microphone chat, and at some point you can get to talk to real people.

or just take a walk around town or something. you'll see other people probably, you wont be talking to them unless they say something to you, but you'll still get a little used to being around them.

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go to a retirement home old people love young people and stories
and peanut butter

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Walking to the places to enjoy and meet people, talking to friends, well what do ya know. I was off by 8. but hey, they could still work.

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here's a tip:
start by talking to a few people on the mic and try AS HARD AS YOU CAN to not have a panic attack.
you're going to wear it off eventually and you wont get panic attacks online, we call it facing your fears.
your fear being around people, you have to get over this or good luck getting a job.

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here's a tip:
start by talking to a few people on the mic and try AS HARD AS YOU CAN to not have a panic attack.
you're going to wear it off eventually and you wont get panic attacks online, we call it facing your fears.
your fear being around people, you have to get over this or good luck getting a job.

Maybe they weren't the suggestions you were looking for, but these people did try. Quit telling everyone in this thread that there weren't any suggestions other than school, or therapy. There were, you just rejected them all.

Also this

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@kumquat I CANT FIND FRIENDS BECAUSE THERES NOWHERE TO GO TO FIND FRIENDS BECAUSE NO ONE IS TELLING ME WHERE TO GO TO FIND FRIENDS AND HOW TO OVERCOME MY ANXIETY

Are you loving kidding me? Like we are supposed to know your town? How people are there? Socializing isn't a math that we can tell you how, and where to do it, and know that it will work. We can socialize because we have spent time doing it, practiced it, learned how to do it, built our own style of doing it. You can't just be good at it. I know you have a fear of it, that's cool. I used to be scared of bees. To the point I wouldn't go outside in the summer because I could see some bees. I was so terrified I would run, and injure my self in the process because of how scared I was. I think you exaggerate your problem. I don't think you have it as bad as you claim you do. Even if you do, it's going to be hard, and you're are going to have to try. You have to put effort into this. We can't tell you about a magical place where you can go without social fears, and easily make friends, and have these great social skills. Doesn't work like that, you have to go out into the world, and try it on your own. Don't give me stuff about how you "JUST CAN'T," you aren't loving trying. Quit feeling bad for yourself, and change you stuff life.

I didn't say "lol u mad"
i wasn't trying to use the overused response when they don't know what to say, I was being serious
you're just a whiteknight trying to defend shyGriff.
Oh please, here you are talking about overused insults and then you call me a white knight? Do you even read what you post?

Oh please, here you are talking about overused insults and then you call me a white knight? Do you even read what you post?
dear lord you're loving stupid


dear lord you're loving stupid
Hurr durr insults. I'm defending him/her because this entire thread isn't needed. I don't want his/her number, I don't his/her nudes, I don't even care if it is a guy. I care that the entire loving forums is flipping its stuff over nothing yet again. This is all because someone was mad they're SUGGESTION wasn't used.