This one girl at my school (my ex) hates me for no reason. She keeps saying stuff like "What you're doing isn't okay" and "you toy with other's feelings"
I honestly don't understand what she means by this, I've asked many people if I'm manipulative at all and they all said no.
Here's a short, two-email conversation we just had.
Her message -
It was really embarrassing when one day in French you started yelling at me.
Please don't do that.
I am just angry with you.
Don't ask why. Because you know.
So I don't want to talk to you.
Because I know that you or me, will start yelling at each other and just fight.
School is really hard on me.
It's very frustrating already.
I don't need you yelling at me to make me feel bad so it makes me forgive you.
I don't want to talk to you.
So don't talk to me.
Please
And if this gets bad enough.
I will have to bring an adult into this.
Tell them what you've done.
What you and your "friend [Anon]" said to me.
And what you have been doing,
Isn't okay.
I told [Anon] a lot of our conversations. She thinks what you are doing isn't nice either.
If you're mad about me telling [Anon].
I had to.
I needed to get these feelings out so they wouldn't explode.
So you can tell one of your friends.
I don't care.
You can reply.
I don't care.
Maybe I'll respond.
Maybe I won't.
It all depends.
My message -
"i don't care."
Frankly, I don't either.
This is like, the 3rd time you've said you wouldn't respond to me.
Can we please just let it go? You'll gain nothing and I won't lose anything (but my sanity) if you keep going on like this.
[Anon] can have her own feelings, and they're not for me to know. Frankly, I don't care if anyone in your "friend group" hates me, because none of them are worth my time. They might have some profound things to say (as I expect) but you're just going to make them think that I'm a horrible person, and their being able to be persuaded to think that informs me that none of them are worth being friends of mine.
Will you stop pestering me? Like I said, you've said "This is the last you'll hear of me" about 3 times.
Okay, make that true.
"I don't want to talk to you.
So don't talk to me."
That's another example.
"I don't need you yelling at me to make me feel bad so it makes me forgive you."
Why do you even attempt to forgive me? You'll hate me again anyway.
"And what you have been doing,
Isn't okay."
This is the thing that has confused me the most. What am I doing, exactly?
I never wanted to be enemies with anyone, so please be indifferent to me. I don't like having to deal with some kind of emotional harassment every night. It's starting to get on my nerves. It's really hard to get on my nerves.
"Don't ask why. Because you know."
Back to the top a little bit. Actually, I don't know. I am clueless as to what I am doing wrong.
Please identify the problem, and elaborate. I want to see if it's something I can change.
Or if it's something you can change in yourself.
So please, accept my apology for whatever I did, and I never wanted any of this to happen.
I never like to be aggressive toward anyone. Never. I've never blown my cap, really, until that french class.
If you don't bring up a reasonable conversation without saying something purposely negative toward me, I'm blocking all communication between you and me. It's the only way, neither of us can handle this kind of pressure.
Please forgive me for whatever I've done.
What am I doing wrong? This is messing with my psyche. We have more messages, if you want to read them.
Am I manipulative?
What's wrong with me?
