how to deal with a stuffuation like this?

[Kimon]

I could say the same to you, since you don't seem to have socialized enough to realize that guys can have just as much of a hair-trigger temper as women can. Granted, women are no better than men when it comes to this, but both genders are completely capable of acting like stingy bitches, and saying "oh it's just because she's a girl" is just plain dumb.

I'm not blaming it all on the fact that she's a woman, I'm just saying outbursts like that in particular are common with women. As an added detail, usually in situations like that, the woman is obviously going to be the green block because men usually don't care about that, or at least usually wouldn't express their bitchiness like that.

I'm talking about outbursts like that. I mean if you are a guy and you have a friend who is a guy does he just suddenly hate you and go off on you because you can't talk to him much at school? Most likely not...

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[Nickelob Ultra]

I'm not blaming it all on the fact that she's a woman, I'm just saying outbursts like that in particular are common with women. As an added detail, usually in situations like that, the woman is obviously going to be the green block because men usually don't care about that, or at least usually wouldn't express their bitchiness like that.

I'm talking about outbursts like that. I mean if you are a guy and you have a friend who is a guy does he just suddenly hate you and go off on you because you can't talk to him much at school? Most likely not...

Not sure how to respond to this because the only times I can recall any women I know getting all largely upset is over a real reason to be upset and I think it's because I only hang around people with some grasp of sense.

[Kimon]

Not sure how to respond to this because the only times I can recall any women I know getting all largely upset is over a real reason to be upset and I think it's because I only hang around people with some grasp of sense.

lucky

Anyways I think OP just ended up with a friend that fits into the bratty cliche teenager category. I will thin it down to bratty cliche teenagers/women that act like children instead of some women if that makes you guys happy.

[Qwepir]

How do we know shes just being a brat and isn't actually going through problems at home? Even if you thin it down you're still generalizing.

[Nickelob Ultra]

lucky

Anyways I think OP just ended up with a friend that fits into the bratty cliche teenager category. I will thin it down to bratty cliche teenagers/women that act like children instead of some women if that makes you guys happy.

she's a homoloveual, socially inept, and "lives online"

Cliche bratty teenagers don't typically live socially online and don't function socially in the real world properly.

edit: also as for "lucky" it's really a matter of being lucky to have the opportunity to be in a very large and diverse social community.  my high school has roughly 1200 males, all-men school, with two other all-women schools nearby.  people with similar characteristics will typically group together.  find the right group and ta-da.

[King of the Bill]

Wow... What saddens me most about this is, there was a time when I acted like that. It's never a good idea. Ever.

[Doomonkey]

I haven't ever had someone do this to me, but I don't use Facebook so I don't know.

[Kimon]

Cliche bratty teenagers don't typically live socially online and don't function socially in the real world properly.

I did not notice that. I mean that alone is actually kind of a reason why she might act like that.

How do we know shes just being a brat and isn't actually going through problems at home? Even if you thin it down you're still generalizing.

She's probably a bit of a brat if she takes out her personal problems on her friends. I think I've done that before, and I can confirm I'm kind of a brat at times. If she apologizes or cools down, it will probably be ok or something. If she stays mad it's basically saying she might be a brat.

[Nickelob Ultra]

I did not notice that. I mean that alone is actually kind of a reason why she might act like that.

In my experience, socially inept people will tend to just be more attention-seeking than actually bratty.  They'll look for excuses (which is not the case here) and just try to make it seem like everything is so horrible for them or something, just generally attention-seeking and clingy, very very clingy.  I have very little reason to believe this person is a bratty teenager because of this.

That's just me observing socially inept men though, I'd think it could apply to socially inept women too but idk.

[Trifax]

At first I thought you were the one shutting her down, I thought you were so loving alpha I was prepared to give you props. But then I got my colors straight and let me tell you: don't just say "i'm sorry" and take stuff from people, solve the problem. She bitches you out about only talking to her online? Well isn't loving ironic that she bitches to you ONLINE about talking in person. If she had such a problem with it, she'd at least try to talk to you in person. And hopefully she hasn't, and you're not just bad at social interaction. Because then you have no case to shut her down with.

Give yourself a damn chance to talk to her in person, and get this stuff straight. No reason to wimp out and let this bridge burn just because you couldn't overcome a problem.

Welcome to life.