I'm not in any way saying keep it going, I'm saying YOU have some self control and lay down boundaries if she tries anything. If she's emotionally compromised, the last thing she wants is for someone who hardly seems to know her, to give her dating advice.
Just be honest with her Jesus, you can ask her personal questions, she's still human. Women love being asked questions, it lets them you care.
If she accidentally sits on your lap, don't bible thump her and start preaching about how shell go to hell for being a cheating whore, smile and say oops, then scoot over so she can have your spot.
Shortened as it gets:
Don't tell her what she can't do
Apologize for being straightforward
Have an honest convo (just out of curiousity... Hey I heard that... So I was wondering... Etc)
Watch wrists / thighs.
My last true relationship lasted 2 years, and every day she wanted to commit Self Delete. She was hospitalized several times, raped, abused, beaten and possibly cheated. But I kept my cool and calmly talked with her and we were honest to each other. You could look at her oday and have no idea she used to cut, but I know where she applies the makeup to cover the thousands and thousands of scars.
If you can see scars, that means she's not bothering to cover them, and she wants help/attention. If you see randomly placed makeup anywhere on her body, she had probably been cutting there but doesn't want anyone to know.
The method at which she's tried Self Delete could vary and so the signs change as such, but even then, you should pay close attention. If she went over the edge, would you REALLY feel good about yourself knowing she trusted and talked with you, but you did nothing?
Imagine yourself in your weakest, most vulnerable state, your like a bubble: the smallest pressure and POP! Now you've told someone about why your weak, and they rant off on you thinking your coming on to them.
Does any of this make sense?
