Telling your friends to join the 21st century and get an IM service is still an easier option.
Furdle can use the forget he wants. As he clearly said, his PC, his project, his friends and he will ban if you become a nuisance. And as he stated that he unbans after the project is done, why don't you wait until it's done? And you can administrate however the forget you want on your server. I honestly believe that this is too much. There were countless dramas and Furdle explained countless times what he does. If you get banned from a server for no reason, the most logical thing to do it play on another server or try to contact the host to ask why you got banned and if it will be lifted. But instead, people retry and dramas are made.