Oooooh, final update. I never met with her about it again, we didn't send any more emails, etc. Yesterday I just got an email from her saying:
"Hi William,
You will be receiving a letter from me via the conduct system. I have thought a lot about it and consulted with other members of my staff, and I have decided to just close the case. Thank you for your cooperation and understanding.
Thanks,
Allie Serrano M.A.
Resident Director, UVA & The QUAD"
So there we are. Argued my way out of the loving conduct process. Too bad I also got put on "probation" until the end of the year for an unrelated incident.