I initially didn't want to post this because it seems like a cry for attention or w/e, but I'm going to post it anyways because I really have nothing to lose at this point.
So I just got back from a trip to DC with my dad, and I had been with him all week prior to the trip. I enjoy spending time with my father, because I like him as a person for one, and because it helps me to get away from my mother. My parents had a fairly bad divorce when I was very young, so most of my life, my parents were two separate entities. My mother retained custody (great job CT court system, love you guys) of myself and my younger sister. When we were younger, my mom would drink heavily and then be very aggressive after drinking significant amounts of alcohol. I'm not going to get into the things she did when I was younger, because that's not the point of this post.
I spent time with my dad every weekend. He'd pick me up from school on Friday afternoon and then we'd spend time together until Sunday night when I was legally required to return to my mom's house. My dad and I had some minor disagreements on his weekends, but nothing too major, mostly just very trivial things that were resolved easily. Lately, my dad hasn't been around too much, because he lives and works in Maine and occasionally is in Chicago. This means that, as a minor, I've been consigned to living with my mom in her house. My mom started drinking again and when she drinks, she does dumb stuff. Two recent altercations stick out in my mind as reasons why myself and my sister need to go live with my dad.
The first instance of poor behavior on my mom's part was when she decided for some reason to take offense at me being home instead of being out like a "normal teenager" (I was cramming for SATs after studying for months). She pulled a paring knife out of the drawer and started to make threatening gestures at me with it. The knife slipped out of her hand at one point and as soon as she bent over to pick it up, I tackled her and held her down while calling the police. Police come, find bruises on my mom but not on me, my mom is friends with the responding officer (of loving course, because she LOVES men in uniform) and they determine that I was using the situation as an excuse to assault her, so off to the psych ward I go. That was during the winter.
The second situation, the one that I would argue is the more serious of the two, is that on the fourth of july, she and her fiance had been drinking heavily and at around midnight, they decided they had enough of me playing games on steam with my friends and tried to kick me out of the house. I'm still technically a minor so they can't legally do that. Her fiance tells me he's going to kick my ass if I don't go out the door at that moment, so I tell him if he comes one step closer to me, I'd break his jaw. Repeat of before, I call the police, they come, nobody touched anyone else, and since this happened in my mom's home, they weren't drunk in public, but due to my remark to him, you guessed it, psych ward.
Now, I don't really care about having to go to the hospital, it's not that bad in there, and I know the social worker very well, and she knows it's pretty much bs whenever I have to go there. What I care about is the fact that the police are so loving incompetent that every single time there's a domestic disturbance at my house, I was the aggressor and get sent to the psych ward. The psych ward they send me to is in excess of 3000 dollars per day you spend there, so as you can probably infer, the medical bills are loving my dad over, because my mom is making him pay for them, which is bullstuff because he was IN NO WAY INVOLVED.
The main problem is that I can't move to my dad's house because he lives in Maine and I'd have to pick up and switch schools and all that jazz, but I can't quite afford to rent a property on my own in this town either, I could only afford to rent in the town over, which would still make me switch schools. I've tried talking to my dad and convincing him to sell his house in Maine (which is in a desirable location and worth a fair bit of money) and just operating his business from here (he owns a business) and getting a house in this town so I don't have to deal with my mother. I also don't want to get DCF involved because tbh they're bullstuff and never helped in the past. I really don't know what to do, because my mom has been acting out all month in an inappropriate way and I'm just loving sick of it. It's no way for a parent to act, and I'm sure as hell not letting her around my kids, EVER.
