so I guess op's friend didn't meet any of that criteria
Even one of them not being met results in complete failure almost all the time. If you look like a boy but act like a girl, it's creepy. If you look like a girl but act like a boy, it's much less creepy, and talking just adds another variable to that. It's not an easy thing to pull off, unfortunately.
No, if you force other people to accept that you are a male when you are clearly a loving female, it can stop there.
Theres this girl at school who goes on and on about fantasizing about becoming a man one day, like she actually says she has a vagina, however if we refer to her as a female, she gets all upset and starts yelling, "IM A HE!!!"
Well if she's saying she has a bodypart that she objectively doesn't, that's just stupid. However if you're purposely calling her a him to piss them off you're a giant richard and deserve whatever scolding you get.