I don't see how this negatively affects you.
Why are you bringing up "I" and "you", it has nothing to do with me. It doesn't impact me at all, if I choose to join I do choose, but I am explaining something else here that you aren't understanding. I join the server because it's fun to see people play deathmatch. (I did not say I would never join the server though)
You're being a richard here just by saying "play or don't join". I get it, people have choices to join, but you're being a richard here but not contributing to your server and let your admins do all your work and have the exucse to just say "Play or don't play".
Just tell me what point you are trying to make here because this "play or don't join" excuse is pretty pathetic.