Author Topic: why do i feel unhappy no matter what i do  (Read 5892 times)

You should join your school's Theater company - you don't need to act, you can be stage crew. You probably missed your school's fall production, but you should become interested in a spring production (whatever your school does). You're probably in middle school/jr. high, but usually those exist.

On top of that, you should start PREPARING for a sport, especially something like spring track and field. Start going out for walks and jogs (yes, it might be cold, but conditioning is tough :)). If there isn't a track and field, run anyway. You're 12, so there isn't really any need to start worrying about becoming un-scrawny.

Find an interest.
just end your life

don't be like me though with 4 failed Self Delete attempts :^))
see: go forget yourself

When I was twelve I was a nimrod. Starting to work at a sport at this time is certainly not impossible. To start though, make some time for a workout or even better a jog/run.
It feels good. Do it.
Your peers may be stupid, but don't look down on them. They are a product of their environment. If you don't have the drive to learn and improve yourself, you aren't better because you know things.
You have ten friends? I had no friends going into a public high school. I was an ugly nerd who hadn't made eye contact with anyone outside my family until halfway through 5th grade, and I ended up making it.
I don't want to belittle you or the difficulties you face, but recognize that from this point, you will still change a lot and learn a lot. I know that I can't relate to all of your struggles or even understand them. What I do know is that you are at the moment above average significantly. Focus on your weaknesses, but keep your strengths in mind. The likelihood that you would know what your career will be now is miniscule. Keep your options open.
I know that when I was around 10-12, I was bored out of my wits.
I have no idea if this is helpful at all. I hope it is a bit. I also really hope that I don't sound patronizing because that is not in the slightest what I want to be doing.
Oh, and while your friendships certainly matter, they won't all endure. Don't expect them to. Respect people's level of connection to you. You may be a more social creature than I, but non-stop contact isn't a good goal.

And being charitable is more difficult for some people than others and if it's hard to reach out that doesn't immediately mean that you should feel obligated to address that.

Talk to me on steam if you need to vent.


Oh and in regards to theater, it isn't for everyone even though it's specifically something that has something for everyone. I was in my middle school's theatrical productions and I was good at it and I hated it because it was time consuming and expectations were set and I hated the pressure of it.
« Last Edit: November 15, 2015, 02:22:44 AM by Katadeus »

Have u considered starting a diary?
U could write about this to vent and talk about ur friend Rowley.


i've tried thinking about what i could possibly persevere in to actually make me happy for once but i really never thought of anything other than computing (which i actually like doing but in this case my school is filled with dumb kids who cant type more than 20 words a loving minute and get surprised when you ask them what a CPU is)


heres the thing: i REALLY don't know what to do with myself but i would want to take classes for computing with stuff that I DO NOT KNOW or either jump into a computer club with people who know stuff like i do or something. I know some stuff about computers and i really like doing things with them, except the only computer club is about 45 miles away in chicago, and thats never fun especially when you don't know what you're getting. my dad wants to put me into a karate class but that stuff is outright uninteresting and i would not want to do that at ALL, so i said no to that.

i used to work on a website at one point and that gave me a bit of room to do things and whatnot, nobody really visits it though. (if you're curious its http://www.thebigmaxx.github.io/ , on the "Files" page it has some school papers that I did as an experiment so I could download things at school, ended up not doing it after realizing its incredibly inefficient.)

anyway, i really can't find what i would do with myself and its put me in a horrible depression for the last year.
tl;dr, i am incredibly nonathletic and i don't know what to do with myself, which made me depressed.

also, sorry if some of this stuff is just nonsensical rambling, i just really need to vent and stuff.


im going to pick this apart even though you might not like it

dude pro-tip stop giving a stuff about people at school

be as weird as you can just dont attract the attention of malicious people like bullies

being athletic is for cigarettes who like rooster in their ass, i'm 5'7, almost 16, 120 pounds

im gross

dont go to a computer club, learn everything you can through the internet

btw ur github is 404 kill or wrong link

u got a skype so i can keep talking to you like im your dad

you can PM it to me if you want, i was in the same exact situation as you when i was 12
« Last Edit: November 15, 2015, 02:23:18 AM by kahnu »

Don't take the advice of people who say be comfortable with where you are at now and just wait for the next stage in life. Childhood is such a short period of time and you have the time and capacity to learn that is unrivaled by any other time in your life, don't waste it at a standstill. You should always strive to be the best version of yourself, growing, changing.

I don't know you on a personal level, but maybe hearing my story may help.

I used to be a stuffty student, kind of chubby etc. and then one day during the summer I gave myself a goal. Become better despite everyone thinking I didn't have it in me. After that every decision I made was to service that resolution. I went from mostly threes, bordering on twos in school to fours and fives and got into the school I always wanted to. But this is important: It all starts with finding healthy interests! I would have continued to be a computer addict, if I had not started working out. From there new interests and social activities started coming by themselves and I guarantee you, the more social activities you participate in, the more healthy your computer usage is.

I feel the need to reiterate the fact that I am not you and what worked for me, might not work for you. I just brought out the bullet points on what should work for anyone when applied similarly.

But most of all, if you feel like life is still beating you up and overwhelming you, talk to someone about it. I don't mean on an internet forum, talk to your parents. Or if you feel like you can't trust them or they won't care, talk to your school psychiatrist perhaps. The information you discuss is confidential and he/she won't involve your parents unless you ask him/her to.

Dedication. You need to not only learn but discipline yourself into being a go-getter. Once you've set a goal you should accomplish it with a fury. There is no better feeling in my opinion. I myself am naturally a very lazy person too and i have quite a few self esteem issues. But I at least recognize my shortcomings. With time, be it for long or short, you'll make your way up there.

therapists never loving help and ALWAYS involve other people in the matter because its their job

just stop giving a forget about people

you always have a hostile attitude and you seem to not care about anything
this is part of the problem
you need to lighten up and start caring

i was the biggest dweeb when i was 12, no girls, no fashion sense or style, only a few friends. you change so much in a few years its crazy. you just gotta finesse your way out of that stuff and be the man i always knew you could be baby

therapists never loving help and ALWAYS involve other people in the matter because its their job

just stop giving a forget about people
How old are you?

Start by separating yourself from the computer.

No really, so many people become over reliant on their electronics as an escape that they make an unhealthy habit that drains them of time and energy.
The op make it sound like you're struggling to be productive, so instead of your usual routine try something new, like that karate class you mentioned.
It'd make your dad happy (hopefully) and will also make a great way to force yourself out of your current routine to a healthier one with regular exercise.
For friends, you need to force yourself to find and meet new people. The most telltale signs that someone is a good potential friend is that you both share a general interest. Chances are you both function at the same wavelength more often than not. Use opportunistic situations where you'd have a good reason to talk with them if you're still shy.

How old are you?

am new 2 forums but is there an ignore feature

am new 2 forums but is there an ignore feature
Why? Because he asked a valid question?

You made a very immature comment. Their job is to try and help people, and they involve people because they want you to feel as though you have a support network you can access when you're not feeling so great.

If you've had a bad experience with a therapist, that's fair enough, but you can't judge every therapist off the back of one experience, and especially if it's not your experience.


just end your life

don't be like me though with 4 failed Self Delete attempts :^))