okay allow me to clarify what im trying to say here
you're not forced into it
there are hundreds of other dating services that dont require any specific race, gender, or religion
just because these two, that are minorities in the dating website area, force you to be a certain race, it does not mean that its tribal
dont like it? go to another one, no one is forcing you to come here, and there is literally no circumstance where you would be forced to use either of those websites