Author Topic: I am falling apart and need some advice  (Read 2399 times)

Trying my best to, I really hate it when emotions just fly every where. The thing is yeah what if I forget about her for a long time and then she comes back? what should I do?

ignore it and just be happy and do what you love to do
just like me
im never depressed

what the forget
like i said, i have a folder, just pm me and ill link it

Trying my best to, I really hate it when emotions just fly every where. The thing is yeah what if I forget about her for a long time and then she comes back? what should I do?
Be a bitch to her for what she did to you.
Act like nothing happened. If she gets upset over it, forget her harder (metaphorically ofc) and leave her, she's an attention thirsty slut.

Be a bitch to her for what she did to you.
Act like nothing happened. If she gets upset over it, forget her harder (metaphorically ofc) and leave her, she's an attention thirsty slut.
Telling someone to forget off when she is being bullied by multiple people and even by her own friends isn't much of a good idea tbh. I think its best to give this a bit of time, if she apologizes me but then wants me to do more stuff and treats me like a bitch then I'm going to tell her to piss off

ignore it and just be happy and do what you love to do
just like me
im never depressed
it's really difficult to change a depressive person's mind I do what I love to do but it doesn't really change me at all

hello friend i have read your story,

I'm going to have to be honest and tell you that when you and your friends teamed up against the girl, you messed up with her. From what i read, the girl was in a bad place mentally, and was in need of professional help. Her 'crushes' seemed more like a sort of cry for attention, or what happens when someone feels too alone and unwanted without getting help. I'm not sure if you were her last friend, but if you are, that means she is completely alone now. Getting teamed up on and yelled at, especially by what you'd consider your last friend is very rough. But you shouldn't be blamed, from what I have read, part of it was peer pressure as your friends were the deciders in standing up against her, and I'm sure you got lost in the moment, especially because you are also in a bad place.
I feel like you should apologize to her in some way, I'm sure both of you have a form of depression, and that's a serious mental disease that is very deadly to fight through alone.
I'm going to disregard this girl now.

You feel alone and you're bored when you're at home. I have been through this too. I'm sure you miss NYC and that is completely understandable. I am not sure if you have the option to return, and I'm going to assume you don't.
Your profile states you're 14, so I'll assume that this is your actual age. I was going to suggest looking for volunteer jobs, because it fills some of your time, you get to write it on your CV, and you will meet interesting new people. But since you can't I will suggest you to find a local group or club that you have interests in, or are maybe curious about. There's a lot to do in life, personally I recently picked up skateboarding, which is something I had never thought of doing before, and I am in love with it. It's a hobby, something to fill your time with, and you will meet new people as well. Try looking for something like this, maybe a sport or a creative outlet, that allowed you to fill your time with something you enjoy and can meet people with.
It seems to me that you're not always enjoying your time at your computer, and this can be because you are having a depressive episode, or because you are actually bored and want to find something new to do.
Because of my experience with depression and my suspicion that you might suffer from it, I also advice you to look up help, or inform your parents. The latter is very scary and a big step, but I am sure that your parents would understand. Depression is common for young adults that moved away from their home, especially when it's a whole new continent.
The UK and the US are also very different in culture, so you might also be suffering from culture shock, without even being aware of it.

I don't know what to tell you about school. School sucks, my remedy is to always wear ear-buds and to play my music whenever I am not with my friends. I enjoy surrendering back into my little 'zone' i guess. If you are capable of doing this I suggest getting Spotify premium if you can afford it and have 3/4G. If not, you should look for an older iPod, they're cheap these days which means you don't have to worry about it if it gets stolen.

Also, cliques are everywhere in life, but in highschool they are the worst. In college, that is if you will go, you will surely find a clique to match with, you sound grown up for your age.
I don't really know what else to tell you, it's good that you didn't watch Tokyo Ghoul I guess because the anime is very bad, haha!

I hope you can clear up your mind and I hope my post helped, stay safe I'm rooting for you!!

By the way I might be in London soon to visit a friend, if you would like to hang out at all, let me know!

« Last Edit: January 07, 2016, 04:18:16 PM by Donnies Catch »

I was replying to this, my bad
What if I forget about her for a long time and then she comes back? what should I do?
assuming a long time is like a month or more

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Thanks man you have some really good advice.

I have tried apologizing to her and I apologized to her after I went on my rant and she looked a bit scared and was very serious, tbh because of her and her friends anime obsession she tries to imitate some anime voice most of the time. But when I spoke to her face to face she sounded normal but was scared. Thing is like you said she is in a mental state and when I texted her after school she was just saying "ok" and felt a bit uncomfortable, I said to her "Do you hate me?" and she replied with "Hate is a strong word". The reason why she was scared is because I have told her about all the problems I've been through and she knows I know many crazy minded gang members and all that stuff and she knows that I know a lot about her. I think what I'm going to do is just wait until the weekend or tomorrow and then I'll try and talk to her and see if she is better or anything


And I don't have any option to return to America and I doubt I'll ever be able to, I moved to the US because of my dads work and my whole family moved there. I've tried looking for jobs but I can't find any that take 14 year old kids but I turn 15 in April and 15 year old jobs are more common. I am also trying to apply for cadets but I've been told that I have to wait till April because they aren't recruiting right now, I'm trying to find clubs and everything its just its taking for ever to find anything at the moment because they are far. The only people I've informed of my depression is my brother, a few friends and her. My brother and her are the only people that are helpful. My father and mother don't do much and most of the time they tell me "School is for studying and education, not to make friends" mean while my brother tells me to try and meet people at school, talking to them and all that stuff.


Yeah high school is stuff and school overall is stuff, my mum told me that I should drop out of high school when I'm 16 and to go to college to get a better education. My school isn't teaching me anything that I want to do in my future at the moment over than ICT, Media, art and English. The problem is, its not enough and it doesn't help enough.

Thanks man I'm trying my best to change my mind and I don't know if I can hang out because I live all the way in the east of London and it isn't really safe around here :(

it's really hard to get used to being alone and doing nothing, but you pretty much have to in society. unless you go through some sort of popular change like a 90's high school movie, you're doomed. i've been doing the same routine for about 6 years now which includes sleeping, playing video games, and sleeping. to me it honestly feels like i'm wasting my teenage years doing nothing but it feels like i can't do anything about it.

also this girl you're talking about sounds like a friend of mine, a humongous, flamboyant weeaboo. i don't really like anime but i'm just friends with her so it feels like i'm at least a bit social.

Every single problem will instantly be non-existent the moment you graduate and are out of school. Even issues solved before then wont even matter.
99 out of 100 people you knew, you will never speak to again after that day.

Because highschool... Its all so unimportant.
« Last Edit: January 07, 2016, 04:54:12 PM by Bisjac »

good luck op
hopefully things calm down for you

it's really hard to get used to being alone and doing nothing

unless you're an introvert

unless you're an introvert

i am an introvert and i have a great phobia of being alone.

Every single problem will instantly be non-existent the moment you graduate and are out of school. Even issues solved before then wont even matter.
99 out of 100 people you knew, you will never speak to again after that day.

Because highschool... Its all so unimportant.
Most people that are older than me tell me this but I don't know what to do man, I'm 14 and I haven't had much of a good childhood from what I've seen

it's really hard to get used to being alone and doing nothing, but you pretty much have to in society. unless you go through some sort of popular change like a 90's high school movie, you're doomed. i've been doing the same routine for about 6 years now which includes sleeping, playing video games, and sleeping. to me it honestly feels like i'm wasting my teenage years doing nothing but it feels like i can't do anything about it.

also this girl you're talking about sounds like a friend of mine, a humongous, flamboyant weeaboo. i don't really like anime but i'm just friends with her so it feels like i'm at least a bit social.
I am alone a lot but I am trying to get into society by finding clubs and social groups and all of that. But it's really hard to find anything at the moment

you should try superglue
thats pretty good for holding things together

Most people that are older than me tell me this but I don't know what to do man, I'm 14 and I haven't had much of a good childhood from what I've seen
trust me, you're doing a lot better than I forgetin was