Author Topic: my mother got in a car accident  (Read 1786 times)

she is 59, she has seen plenty of it already and I get the strong feeling that this won't work

what I'm gonna do is just yell at her everytime I see her going over 60 on the roads and force her to slow down every time I'm in the car with her (which is almost never sadly)
Go broken record and repeatedly say "mom you're speeding" until she slows down to the speed limit, ignoring her telling you to shut up

the thing is though we yell at each other all the time, I am not afraid to yell at her it's just she does not listen

she has the most authority in this house, but the one thing I could do in overrulling her is if she moves house, I'm going to not go with her and move in with my dad it's an extreme inconvenience to be half a mile from any bus stop or my dads other house (and by the way they are still married and happily together) she's still on THAT case and it's also extremely annoying
What do you say to her? If you just outright cuss her of course she won't listen. When people here act up I tell them to either calm down or hush it up. Or that they aren't doing X or that they have to do X. If it keeps getting bad start taking the keys and such, show who is in charge. Don't be a pansy

Is this her first accident lol?

I don't have a license so I wasn't able to take the risk, although my mom specifically said that worse comes worse to let me drive and I was ready to take the wheel. I wanted to trade him spots after we left town but he has to walk with a walker so making him switch seats in 10F weather would be a richard move, other than that one instance with the ditch he did pretty good, I can't hold it against him considering we were on a road with no lighting what so ever.
Don't you even have a learner's permit?
You were in the car with adults, you could have driven

What do you say to her? If you just outright cuss her of course she won't listen. When people here act up I tell them to either calm down or hush it up. Or that they aren't doing X or that they have to do X. If it keeps getting bad start taking the keys and such, show who is in charge. Don't be a pansy
I'm not in the car with her often so at home I cuss at her but in the car I guess I've got a really assertive tone when saying it? she still doesn't listen and says she isn't going fast but hell maybe one day she will

I could really go on about her but the topic isn't meant for it

Is this her first accident lol?
no, her first one was 17 years ago but this was because of some other handicap speeding and it wasn't her fault

Don't you even have a learner's permit?
You were in the car with adults, you could have driven
Nope, my dipstuff of a father decided to lose my birth certificate so I could never get one. I finally have my birth certificate again so I have to get it taken care of asap.

I'm not in the car with her often so at home I cuss at her but in the car I guess I've got a really assertive tone when saying it? she still doesn't listen and says she isn't going fast but hell maybe one day she will

I could really go on about her but the topic isn't meant for it
When she walks in do you just start blurting swear words or something?

When she walks in do you just start blurting swear words or something?
no, I'm being too vague about this

it's just when she says she's going to do something stupid and I start telling her urgently not to do this stupid thing

no, I'm being too vague about this

it's just when she says she's going to do something stupid and I start telling her urgently not to do this stupid thing
try this
get in her face and literally loving scream about it
if she tries to play it off like she doesn't give a stuff then keep screaming

Take your moms keys and tell her she can't have them until she matures.

I kind of want to lock this

I'm starting to think people are getting irritated with me and thinking I'm stupid for not doing anything

try this
get in her face and literally loving scream about it
if she tries to play it off like she doesn't give a stuff then keep screaming
this is almost as bad as calling the authorities, it will devolve into physical violence is my guess and it will make things much worse

Take your moms keys and tell her she can't have them until she matures.
honestly I want to see how it goes from here and then try that, or get my dad to remod the car she'll be driving

Her driving behavior may change after the accident. A 59 year old will never listen to a 16 year old, stuff just doesn't happen, just let her know you care and you're concerned for her safety and if that doesn't sway her nothing will (besides law enforcement).

I kind of want to lock this
I'm starting to think people are getting irritated with me and thinking I'm stupid for not doing anything

you could make a topic about how you rescued a litter of kittens from the worlds tightest storm drain and people would still get irritated with you lol

your mom was scared of you getting a license when she can't even drive?

I kind of want to lock this

I'm starting to think people are getting irritated with me and thinking I'm stupid for not doing anything
this is almost as bad as calling the authorities, it will devolve into physical violence is my guess and it will make things much worse
honestly I want to see how it goes from here and then try that, or get my dad to remod the car she'll be driving
I'd just take the keys. Surely your dad will back you up, if she starts yelling just barricade yourself in your room and listen to music. She'll get tired of it eventually.

Her driving behavior may change after the accident. A 59 year old will never listen to a 16 year old, stuff just doesn't happen, just let her know you care and you're concerned for her safety and if that doesn't sway her nothing will (besides law enforcement).

you could make a topic about how you rescued a litter of kittens from the worlds tightest storm drain and people would still get irritated with you lol
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my god how do you guys even live with such unstable parents