Author Topic: BLF, what do I do (relationstuff)  (Read 2024 times)

Girls don't have that "womanly" mentality at younger ages tbh and usually just hopscotch between guys. Women are more open to actual love tbh.

my first gf was a lot like what op is describing and I wish I cut that thing off a lot sooner than I did

I've been friends with my ex for like years, despite breaking up
in fact, we never even stopped talking. like, didn't even skip a day to get over it. but that's probably because he's honestly kinda dependent on me :)))))
it really depends on the person, in this situation it would be best to let her off gently and never speak to her again since she seems manipulative

Well, my first inclination would be to get out of such a bad relationship because it's simply unhealthy, but she is so unstable it worries me a lot.  It's frightening how one person could have so many psychoses.  Both of these are treatable, usually through a long process of therapy, but since she would (as I would imagine) still be in her adolesence, it could just be a phase.

Simply breaking with her could cause a lot of problems.  On one hand, something my mom always says is to "guard your heart", meaning that you need to look out for what you need and to make sure you don't get hurt in the process.  On the other hand, if you still care for her welfare, I suggest you ask some of these questions.  I can tell that she wants to be with you, that's for sure, and you need to gear your questions in that direction.  Ultimately, I think that you need to consider these because you likely know more about what's going on.

  • Do you love me?
  • How much do you value me?
  • I am deeply concerned by how you have been treating yourself lately.  Are you worried about something?
  • Your recent, and I'm not sure if you realize—drastic actions, are worrying me to the point where I feel that it hurts the relationship between us.  And furthermore I know it's hurting you more.  You have to break it.

I'm sure you can perhaps think of more.  If it concerns you for her safety, you should speak to her parents of guardians about these concerns, and these diagnosable and treatable conditions need serious consideration.  If you have reasonable beleif that she may commit Self Delete, call 911.  She will be admitted to a hospital with no questions asked about insurance or anything, as it is a serious matter.

I am sorry that you're in this situation, OP, and I do hope that things turn out better for you and her.  What's important is acknowledging that if she's stubborn, you break it off without hesitation.
« Last Edit: March 03, 2016, 01:04:48 PM by SWAT One »

  • Do you love me?
  • How much do you value me?
  • I am deeply concerned by how you have been treating yourself lately.  Are you worried about something?
  • Your recent, and I'm not sure if you realize—drastic actions, are worrying me to the point where I feel that it hurts the relationship between us.  And furthermore I know it's hurting you more.  You have to break it.
  • Can I stick it in your pooper?
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