I'm gonna be that guy and ask you to state a few
I saw that coming, and that's fair.
To me, it really depends because the subjectively "best" thing to do always differs case to case. Parenting is hard, which is why it's easy to just yell at your kid so they'll do the right thing just out of fear that if they don't, you'll forget their stuff up. You can treat your kids however you want because you're their parent, and its your household, but the psychological (and physical) well-being of the child should be taken into account here.
The root of a lot of problems is the lack of human interaction, which is a good reason why kids turn to technology, because talking with people across the world fills that void to some level. It's the reason why anyone would spend a good lot of their time on social media. Even introverted people, we all just have an inherent need to feel connected. Whenever you can, you should always talk to your child, act down-to-earth with them. Try to care a little and extend a helping, caring hand if it seems as though something's bothering them.
Along with that, if you forget up and make them cry, or if you're wrong about something and you
know you are yet you don't want to falter your authority: just admit you're wrong for forget's sake. Changing views are what moves us forward. Views set in stone are the reason why the Republican party still exists. Stay open minded and accepting to new information and concepts, especially if they relate to parenting in general.
But we live in a world where some of this can't really be helped. You're in a middle to lower class family, and you can't really afford to go on vacation that often. On top of that, you can't spend as much time with your kids as you might want to because you're working all the damn time. The thing to remember here is, your kids love you and respect you. You're the one that helped to bring them into this world, or, otherwise, the one that helped them to grow into who they are at that point in time. Kids are stupid and they won't ever understand all the reasons why they can't have two kit-kat bars at the movies instead of one, but they can feel, and more importantly, grow. Having patience and confidence with your children is a big part of it as well, because if you don't trust them, why in god's name would they ever trust you?
Just remember that kids are more than just kids, they're people. They're human beings. View the world through their eyes, and try to understand their limited thought process and narrow view when it comes to interpreting the world around them.
that's what he's saying, aim for uncomfortable instead of painful
Ah, my b. Misread, thought he said comfortable instead.
This lol.
I understand that, as a kid, it is unlikely that you'll "get it." I didn't. But there is no denying that it caused me to grow and become a better person over time. I thought back on it as I grew able to understand it. At that point, it was just another experience, and we learn very well from our experiences, even if it's not in the present. However, as I said in this post:...you gotta know your kid. Blanket statements simply DO NOT WORK. Yes, spanking DOES in fact work on some kids - asking me to deny that is asking me to deny part of my childhood. But I won't spout the lie that all parents should do it to all kids.
As a parent, if you do not know your child and make an effort to understand them personally, then you are failing in your parental duty.
There's no debate in the fact that spanking works. The issue is whether or not it should be done at all.
It shouldn't. I wouldn't want it done to me, and I wouldn't do it to anyone else. That should be the bottom line, and I'm surprised it isn't.
