hey dorks,
its not uncommon for users on this forum to look for help with relationships, despite it not being the best place. its the community aspect that makes this place more ideal than others, so i wanted to look for advice as well.
a few years ago in high school i was unfortunately placed in a class where i didn't know anyone, so i went off to make new friends. one of these is a chubby boy that really liked fantasy video-games. because of him i got into a nerdy social circle and went off to finish the school year, during this year, he also claimed that he wanted to date me, i rejected.
after this school year came another, and the same thing happened, i was put in a class with different people, luckily this time with my old friend. this school year went on and me and this old friend ended up in a different social circle than the nerdy one i used to be in, cutting almost if not all contact with that social circle because we just didn't run into eachother anymore.
we only really saw each other at some parties and the most we got out of it was drunk small-talk. not insignificant small-talk however, because at one point we were doing this game of forget, marry, kill, and he said that he would rape me. obviously from that point on i was pretty freaked out by him.
now to the current issue, this was back when we were about 16, we're currently both 18. the most we see each other is when we play league of legends together, and when i sometimes run into him near school.
whenever we have a run-in, he always asks if i want to hang out, and if i want to get stoned with him. he always wants to chill (and always wants to get either drunk or high) and no matter how often i deny, he always eventually asks again.
the thing is i am still scared of being around him physically. he's a rad and funny dude and love hanging out with him online, but that is the limit for me.
what i need some support with is how do i make him stop trying to chill with me and get me on what are almost like dates by his description, without making it awkward and him possibly getting upset at me and bailing as a friend, which would suck since he's still a cool and nice guy.
sorry if this seems a bit finicky, but that's just because the situation is really tangled and hard to explain from my side.
