so in the couple last years until now i've began to nice that my dad has become more and more of a richard through time. he's the kind of guy to pretend to be perfect and never hears opinons or cricticism from other people including my other family members even if he claims so. this topic is really hard to write given that i'm primarily talking about no one else but my father so i don't really want to write a rant of hate, but just list the issues that i think are beyond the line of "being a richard".
first off, my father and my mother are constantly in some kind of war between eachother because of some pointless things that can happen like accidenally making something fall down on the ground. talking about dropping something to the ground, here's a good example from today:
i had to empty the dishwasher and put everything in the cupboard; but as soon as i went around and pulled a drawer, a wooden plate fell behind the drawer as i simply pulled it. my dad started to throw a tantrum at me based off of "holy stuff what the forget you're really just a moron" so as i heard that i knew my father was going to spew that usual stuff at me and i leaned on the cupboard, exhausted as he says "what are you trying to do, giving yourself some kind of look because you have none??". that's not even relevant to the situation, remember i just made some wooden plate fall from the drawer.
also i have little to no privacy possible with my father, as soon as i have friends that he doesn't know about or if i look different from usual he's going to question me and act like a detective to try and know something that i could deeply hide, he's convinced that i'm hiding something, i don't even know what he's talking about from here. focusing on privacy, here's some blatant proof that he doesn't care about my privacy: my mother usually knocks on my bedroom door before entering, as my dad noticed this he began asking my mother "why do you always knock before going in his room" like it's not the basis of social life. usually proving himself wrong will result in him being mad.
i got some tips about how my dad behaves from a doctor, i've explained the very same plots to my doctor and he requests my father to come over and see him, problem here is that my dad never goes to the doctor because "they are just useless money grabbing jews".
he also never encourages me in any situation he just does the usual meltdown when something goes wrong. he's also the kind to just complain for instance when you make a spoon fall instead of picking it up and say "this fell down". and he'll constantly put himself on the pedestal when something like that happens.
that's all i could think of for the moment, i'm really just posting this to see how you feel about my dad and see if me and my mom are being too lax about him.
