Why some people have the urge to be such a nuisance?

[Filipe]

Not sure if this is a blogland type of topic but here we go, I've always met this type of people in my life, you know, the ones that instead of asking you a favor it mocks you for not doing what it wants so you have to guess everything that person wants before it ruins your day with stupid complaints, there was a period of time in my life that I had to live in a person's house that was friends with my mother, she was like this everyday, here are a few examples.

"Did you forgot to put the chair back on the table? You can't do that you have to place it back, can't you think?" - A simple matter of forgetting such a small detail can happen to anyone and she could just do that instead of being a nuisance in the morning like usual.

"Why did you used more soap to clean your clothes? Can't you use your damn brain?" - I literaly used one more finger of soap because my clothes were dirtier than usual, and she made this into such a big useless thing."

"Why don't you clean your dog bed? It's your dog you have to do it and *other useless mockery that I forgot what it was because I left the room sick of her stuff*." - The bed was new and was used for only half a week and the dog was dirty, sure I can gladly do such thing if she could ask for it nicely, but instead have to always make a big fuss over nothing.

I used to go to the market to buy some things for us most of the time by myself, and we always made a list so I don't forget anything, and when I got back sometimes she complained because I didn't think of buying something that she didn't even asked or added it on the list so I had to guess that stuff.

In conclusion she was the type of person that if you have anything out of place or anything that you can forget (or even don't do something that she never asked in the first place) will bother and mock you out, it's such a headache living with a person like this, I know it sounds simpler in this post but in reality it was very stressful.

So I've been curious, is it really that necessary to treat another person like this? Especially when you're living with him/her? You could basicly just ask a favor or give some tips so the same mistake won't happen again, atleast I think that is the right way to do it.

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[XR-7]

It's called being a nag at it's expected if there is a female in the house.

[Filipe]

It's called being a nag at it's expected if there is a female in the house.

I can confirm you that not all women are like this.

[Trogtor]

it has something to do with how people are raised basically

[Rednakin]

What would jesus do?

[Filipe]

What would jesus do?

He would move out.

[Daswiruch]

What would jesus do?

he would come back to my garden and trim my hedges for below minimum wage

[TheABELBOTO]

who is this particular person you're talking about

[Rigel]

I've always wondered the same. I've been unable to get answers, but it seems like some people are genetically pricks.

[Ravencroft·]

cause theyre losers

[Foxscotch]

trogtor is right, it's probably because their parents did the same thing with them, and nobody else ever taught them the right way to behave

[Rally]

Lol yeah it's the most annoying stuff in the world, my sister will come upstairs, knock on my door, bitch at me for leaving a cup on the counter, walk back downstairs and sit down and not do anything about the cup. In the time it took her to do that, she could've put 5 cups away. I get that putting the cup away in the first place would've been the smart thing to do, but when I see something that bothers me, I fix it, I don't go looking for someone to blame and give orders to.

It seems impossible, but it can be done: just try and lay low and not leave anything unattended to. Be conscious of everything you do and how you do it and attend to it shortly after, and it will frustrate the HELL out of them when they can't find small details to berate you over. Alternately you can just accept the fact that your house mate is a total douchebag and just ignore their rhetoric, they'll probably realize at some point that berating the forget out of you constantly impacts your sense of responsibility negatively.

[caxto]

Well i believe that first off, some of the people who are being bothersome to you may just function differently, like for maybe one other person, it may be a way to alleviate stress and drain frustrations out from their day (i'm not saying this is OK however; if they're having a rough day it may help change the tone if you talk to the person about their day and offer some advice if they ask for it) Another is that they may be a little dense and are slow to catch onto things, and may be thinking you're doing something else or ignoring them if you don't immediately snap to, and the best thing (in my opinion) to do is to ask them to tell them your intentions on how you where going to take care of the subject, or about how you where unaware of something so they know. One other thing is that the person may have a disability and in all honestly i'm not sure how to deal with socially inadequate people myself, and i believe the best thing to do in that situation is to ask for some help on how to address the person on the subject of them being a bit rude when asking you to do a favor or something.

(please correct me if i'm wrong on something, and again, this is just my take from the viewpoint)

[Filipe]

Lol yeah it's the most annoying stuff in the world, my sister will come upstairs, knock on my door, bitch at me for leaving a cup on the counter, walk back downstairs and sit down and not do anything about the cup. In the time it took her to do that, she could've put 5 cups away. I get that putting the cup away in the first place would've been the smart thing to do, but when I see something that bothers me, I fix it, I don't go looking for someone to blame and give orders to.

It seems impossible, but it can be done: just try and lay low and not leave anything unattended to. Be conscious of everything you do and how you do it and attend to it shortly after, and it will frustrate the HELL out of them when they can't find small details to berate you over. Alternately you can just accept the fact that your house mate is a total douchebag and just ignore their rhetoric, they'll probably realize at some point that berating the forget out of you constantly impacts your sense of responsibility negatively.

I feel you man, it was like this everyday.

[Mr Unicode]

I loving hate people like this. Ive met quite a few people like that irl