My mother & alcohol abuse

[BLockyBuildingBro]

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y'all probably think I'm joking or something, due to my cringey BL Rep, but nah.
my mother (whos name I will keep hidden)has a drinking problem, and is a BITCH whenever she can't get alcohol, or has too much alcohol.
a couple months ago my mom started drinking for no reason, and it wasn't that bad. I thought it would be, like, a cup a week or something, that wouldn't get her drunk off her ass.
so, my mothers boyfriend (I gotta give him a name: Bill) had no problem with this, but later though, it would be close to a bottle a week, and then, the loving impossible, a bottle a day (but not a bottle everyday, like, every three days) one day, Bill confronted my mom about this, and they got into a huge verbal fight & stuff, and my mom ended up walking out and going on top of the roof. thankfully, she didn't jump, but she scared the stuff out of us. A few weeks later, she got into a physical fight with Bill & ended up hurting him (he's not a fighter, so yeah. He didn't want to fight her as well) and ended up having the door broken due to swinging the chair into it. even more weeks later, we had went to RenFest, which was good, and I was told we would go to a chinese restaurant afterwards, so I went. At the end of the day, I was told we would be going to an Irish pub instead, so, I asked to go home, which I did. I thought all day that she would come home drunk again, and I thought that maybe I was being too worried. turns out, I did, as she didn't come home. she felt angry at Bill "because" and got out of the car, and tried to climb a tree, failed, and ran away. she came back the next day. the most recent one was yesterday, when she went to Tate's (a Comic book store in FL) for some sort of convention. we saw her pouring out sprite & filling the bottle with vodka. behind her back, we poured out the remaining amount, and waited until 1:00 AM until they came back. turns out mom got drunk again, and went straight for the vodka. well, when she didn't find it, she confronted me & my brother. When we said she poured it out, she left. she came back a couple minutes later and stated she didn't want us at her house any more, and that we should go to our fathers. I still want to stay with my mother as well as my father (I have him on Monday, Tuesday, Saturday, and half of Sunday) but what do I do? I want her to stop drinking, but she always says she will, buut goes right back to it.

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[Clownfish]

she needs help
I don't know what kind but
she does

[Filipe]

she needs help
I don't know what kind but
she does

All the help

[Jshotgun]

climbing trees don't make you the coolest kid around anymore
those were simpler times

[Clownfish]

read it again
I can see why they divorced

[WaterOre]

You should see if she is willing to go to an AA meeting. Have you talked to her about this yet?

[rambo1220]

You should see if she is willing to go to an AA meeting. Have you talked to her about this yet?

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My mom used to have serious drinking issues also, but surprisingly AA took her right out of that mess. If she's reluctant then don't force her, AA will only work for her if she actually wants to go, otherwise it'll be equivalent to a kid who fails in school because his parent's make him go.

And if she is reluctant, then at least give her an outline as to how it would help her. If she doesn't want to listen the first, second, or third time, then you keep on trying and show her you genuinely care about her health. If it comes to a point that she just won't go at all the only solution I can think of is CP (despite how loving nasty they are) or have your dad gain full legal custody of you.

and if none of that works, then dump her alcohol supply down the drain whenever possible. It's a bit childish, but if none of the above works then that's your only option.

[Plebian Native American]

tell her to weed

[Katadeus]

My move would be to leave. My parents are divorced and my sister couldn't get along with my mom, so she decided to live with my dad full time while I kept going back and forth. The distance helped a lot and they're on much better terms now.
I'm not saying that's how this will turn out though. I think she's probably having some kind of crCIA, and will eventually get through it, but your leaving might be something of a wake-up call. If she continues after you leave, though, idk what your options would be.
Be careful with how you proceed.

Rambo is absolutely right about AA only being for if she really wants to and is ready to change. Telling her about it now probably won't help.

Good luck, hope she comes around.

[Dannu]

Stay with your father full-time. While it's true that people in this condition shouldn't be left to their own devices, kids shouldn't be around this sort of behavior and aren't therapists, who can absorb it all and deal with it.

[Nonnel]

You definitely shouldn't be staying with her. She sounds like she's not going to admit she has a problem, either.

[Hexxy]

911

[Duck Quackington]

she came back a couple minutes later and stated she didn't want us at her house any more, and that we should go to our fathers.

Why exactly does she want you and your bro to leave? Is she worried or is she forcing you out so she can drink more often

other than else, I feel for you

[Regirock]

Stay with your father full-time.

So out of nowhere she started drinking?

[Nonnel]

So out of nowhere she started drinking?

she found out her son was gay