to a certain extent this really is pretty reasonable, like using "they/their" as generic words or avoiding pronouns altogether just to be sure, but when you start getting into just avoiding parts of words that seem gendered it's a really blurry line between reasonable and excessively careful, and i think that it's easy to try too hard to air on the safe side and make things weird
that being said, i would find it difficult to be upset about people wanting to use different words than me. the only problem is if you're suddenly being stigmatized for language that's always been acceptable in your experience, it's hard to retroactively internalize new connotations if you haven't personally experienced something that changes them
