Ya boii got no social skills and could use some tips

[Dragonoid.Slayer]

Really tho, I have like no social skills and could use some tips on how to not be so stuff at making friends.

I'm not saying that I don't have friends, I just.. can't easily make friends out of a specific group of people.

Basically, most if not all of my friends right now are either from Percussion / Band or elementary school. I just see / used to see these people so often, that it came naturally with them.. because people in band and percussion share a common interest with me(band and percussion), it's fairly easy to make friends with them because we can talk about similar things.

Outside of people from band / percussion / elementary school, I can't really make any new friends. I just... don't possess the social skills to be able to talk to people and share common interests and just.. y'know make friends.

Oh yeah, I've never had a girlfriend and I'm only 'friends' with maybe 5 girls. loving kill me, or give me tips. It's time to stop because I'm tired of being antisocial, but I also don't know how to not be anti social with the people that I don't know.

Oh, I'm a sophomore in highschool. After reading this over, I made it sound like I was in middle school.

Help..?

Also:

I'm absolutely terrible at small talk. Like, with people I don't know, I can't make a conversation last more than about 12 seconds. It consists of 'hey' > 'hey' > 'how are you doing?' > 'good, you?' > 'good' > -end-

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[cooolguy32]

I literally have the same problem.
I don't think this is going to help, but I recommend start talking to people.

[Eon]

stop being such a beta male

[Refticus]

get drunk

[Neventii]

You can't make friends if you're not trying to get closer with them. You don't want to be someone you're not, though. Be with people who have similar interests and personalities. Ditch people who are not good to you. Try to get to know them, and if they're closed off or do 't care, drop them. Spend more time with them and talk about things you like to talk about. I've had people try to bull stuff a conversation about linguistics with me and I can tell when they have no idea what they're talking about.

I'm autistic and this has been something I really struggle with. You're not alone and a lot of people are looking for a higher level of Human connection and intimacy. The best way to achieve it is to not compromise the person you are.

get drunk

Alternatively you can do this to slow down your racing thoughts and refrain from checking in when something happens socially in a way you don't want to happen

Then you become an alcoholic like me.

[gr8dayseth]

do 't

where did ur n go

[Daswiruch]

some people may recommend just going up to people and introducing yourself, making small talk and stuff
but whenever i do that i somehow go full handicap after introduction and embarrass myself

[Neventii]

some people may recommend just going up to people and introducing yourself, making small talk and stuff
but whenever i do that i somehow go full handicap after introduction and embarrass myself

Elaborate on full handicap, people might not actually be viewing you in that way.

Like, personally, I've read through some of your posts and your subtle remarks make me laugh

where did ur n go

left me for another man

[Dragonoid.Slayer]

making small talk and stuff

I'm absolutely terrible at small talk. Like, with people I don't know, I can't make a conversation last more than about 12 seconds. It consists of 'hey' > 'hey' > 'how are you doing?' > 'good, you?' > 'good' > -end-

[Daswiruch]

Elaborate on full handicap, people might not actually be viewing you in that way.

Like, personally, I've read through some of your posts and your subtle remarks make me laugh

i am a much different person online than i am in real life
ol: argumentative starfish who is not afraid to say anything
rl: angry smartass who crumbles under pressure

[Foxscotch]

I'm absolutely terrible at small talk. Like, with people I don't know, I can't make a conversation last more than about 12 seconds. It consists of 'hey' > 'hey' > 'how are you doing?' > 'good, you?' > 'good' > -end-

I can't do small talk either
I don't even know what to say, and anything I can think of, I imagine they will think I am trying too hard if I say it...............

[TheABELBOTO]

I can't do small talk either
I don't even know what to say, and anything I can think of, I imagine they will think I am trying too hard if I say it...............

is that why our conversations on steam end in like 2 minutes

[Foxscotch]

is that why our conversations on steam end in like 2 minutes

yes, actualy

I can talk about specific THINGS easy, it is just making up my own things to talk about that I have trouble with. this is why I love group chats

[Dragonoid.Slayer]

I can't do small talk either
I don't even know what to say, and anything I can think of, I imagine they will think I am trying too hard if I say it...............

yes, actualy

I can talk about specific THINGS easy, it is just making up my own things to talk about that I have trouble with. this is why I love group chats

Holy stuff same. If i'm in a group of friends with a mix of people I don't know, I'm completely fine. I can occasionally contribute to the conversation, but if I'm with a single person, it doesn't last very long, as I already stated.

[cooolguy32]

Holy stuff same. If i'm in a group of friends with a mix of people I don't know, I'm completely fine. I can occasionally contribute to the conversation, but if I'm with a single person, it doesn't last very long, as I already stated.

same